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Since last week shes been thinking way to much. She doesnt love herself anymore, saying shes fat, and an emotional mess. I keep telling her thats shes fine and I wont leave her for anyone. And this last week shes been cutting herself at her thighs. Ive told her to stop but she told me I wouldnt understand the stuff thats shes going through. Then yesturday, she had a blog post
"I don’t know what to do anymore… Things don’t feel the same and all I ever do is cry now and hurt myself… How can I love somebody if I can’t even love or respect myself? Today was a good day and I was happy, but I didn’t feel a spark anymore… I’ve been doing things I don’t want to do, I don’t wanna hurt anymore"
Then I relized that she doesnt love herself and does not believe in herself anymore. And shes telling me that she acts happy on the outside but is depressed on the inside. We both love each other and I dont want to dump her over this. Ive encouraged her and talked to her several days to be proud of who she is. But she said she cant since shes a "mess". Then today I put together the pieces.
In November last year she was had a crush on this guy. This guy told her that he loved her and stuff. They hung out for several weeks like they were a couple. Then one night he told her that everything was a lie and he doesnt like her anymore...
Then she met me a month later and we took one month to know each other and then hooked up a month later. It was bright back then but its so dark now.
Now, I think shes extremely insecure because that other guy found another girl. Then she is doubting herself. No matter what I tell her she is sill in doubt about herself. She told me today that she wants me to help her back up. What can I do?
Thanks for any help [:

You should try to do something spontaneous; take her mind off of her troubles. Maybe do something that ups your adrenaline, like going to a theme park. But you should try to stick to something that you both will be able to focus all of your attention on for an extended period of time.

Take a road trip to a big city close to you, and go shopping. While you're shopping, suggest a couple of items that would look good on her; it could help boost her confidence. Basically do something that will take all day, that will focus all of your attention, and that will get her mind off of her depressing thoughts. And most importantly, do something that will bring you two together.

Yeah a little trouble, we are both 15 so we have limited time outside the house -.-

Hmmm, well, going off of what I suggested before about going to a big city, substitute the city with a local mall. You could try bowling; maybe laser tag; see a horror or suspenseful movie. That's about as far as my thinking takes me.

Yeahhh. I will take her a couple of places
Thanks for the help (:

You already have one thread for this. In future please could you just stick to the one.

The thread can be found here: My girlfriend is depressed