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Ive been talking to this guy for a while and we seem to get along with each really well, But even though he knows what I look like and everything im afraid that hes not going to like me anymore once he meets me which would be really upsetting.

should I take a leap of faith and meet him anyway?

or throw in the towel and leave things as they are?

Go ahead and meet him, but only if you're sure he is who he says he is. You know the dangers. You'll only know if he likes you when you meet him Good luck.

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Look at it this way, if you ask to meet him:

1) He says yes
2) He says no

The worst thing he can do is say no, am I right? And then all you'd have to do is find someone else who appreciates you much more than what he does if that's the case.

I don't agree with meeting people online persuming that's what your doing.. anyway

and i'm sure he wants to meet you because of your presonality not looks

What do you have to lose? You met the guy online, it's not like you are paying for his trip to Europe or somewhere. I recommend you meet him, just incase you don't regret it in the near future.

However, please be careful and make sure he is who he claims to be. The only place to be more than one person in one body is on the internet. If you know what I mean.

I take it by what others have said that you have met this guy online.

You should be very careful in metting people from off the internet because unlike in real life when you can develop a friendship, with him you do not know what he is going to be like. All very sweet in a chat room or, on MSN. But you don't know for sure.

My advice is, you meet in a public place. That before meeting up, you contact your best friend and give her details of what and where you are meeting him. On your mobile, set your friend's number to speed dial if at any time you feel uncomfortable with the guy. And walk away from him.

We read horror stories of internet meet-ups that go wrong. You can never be too safe. I don't know how old you are, but even I at 20 would never take the risk.

One further question. Do you parents know?

He knows my sister from a long time ago because he\s bestfriends with her bestfriends brother. I was introduced to him a long time ago but dont remember and neither does he. So apparently technically we've met but I dont count it. Its like we've never met which is why im a little unsure about it because Im very self consious and shy. He is who he says is, I know this because like I said before we know mutual people. Yes my mom knows about it, I would never meet anyone anywhere but a public place nor would I not let anyone know what my plans were. For future reference, I am 18 turning 19 in a week.

Yea i say go for it. make sure you meet and stay in public places at first though. but if you get along so well online things shouldnt change really. it can be a little harder to move from cyber chat to real chat tho cause you dont have as much time to think between responses. good luck girl

Meet him(: xx