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There is this girl that I really like and want to ask to prom, but there's a problem. She is on a team at school who is going to a state math competition out of town the same day as prom. People can be substituted for the event, but I think it might be better for her if she went. Do you think that I should still ask her to prom?

I think you have to realize that asking her might lead to her saying no, and not b/c she doesn't want to go with you, she has a legit confliyt with the time. As long as you're Ok with that, you could ask...and also mention to her that you know she might not be able to go. Let her make the decision.

Whatever her choice, though, by asking her, you're saying your desire to be with her, and not just for one night at the prom. So, even though she might choose the math comp., upon her return, you and she might still have some relationship. The prom is only one event, it's just one night. A friendship lasts longer!

Do it!!

I honestly think that you shouldn't the only reason as to why I say this is because most things like that help get into better colleges
Prom Isnt that important!

There no harm in asking?
But don't get your hopes up.

do it. i know how it feels to be asked. it like amazing, and you feel really special. or mabey im just weird that way.

but yea it would make her day. so do it K?

If you really want to - go ahead. She might accept, but either way she'll be flattered as I would.

Thank you for the responses. She already found out from one of her friends awhile ago that I was going to ask her, but this was before her math competition came up. She seemed very nice towards me, and didnt try to avoid me at all. Also, if I ask her, I dont want to put her in an awkward position that might make her mad at me since it would be a conflict. So really girls, you wouldnt be upset if you were asked in this situation?

No, I wouldn't be upset. I've already been is similar dilemmas as you and angonised over it. But as you said, she seems nice towards you, and stalling, you might kick yourself for not plucking up the courage to ask her.

Ok, there might be a conflict. But you don't that because you can't read her mind or feelings. Just go for it. Because your prom night might just turn out go sweetly tickety-boo.