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Always has. Everyone around me is in a relationship (of course I know none of them are perfect) but when I look at me I wonder what's wrong.

I rarely ever meet guys I like with and when I do things never work out! something ALWAYS goes wrong e.g. they end up going out with someone else. I've tried to stay positive and make more effort with this guy cos I realised my love life is the way it is because of me... but this guy keeps on feeding me the same old bullshit over and over...so I think y do I bother with him? I bother because I really like him. I try and meet other people and I dont find anyone I click with :(

ugh this is really upsettin me. I dont know whats wrong at all. maybe Im meant to stay single. I know I'm not the most open, affectionate , loving person and guys seem to think I don't have feelings- but If I do. I just don't wear my heart of my sleeve, but I know when the right guy comes along I will let him know exactly how I feel. It isn't easy for me to show a guy I like them, so I dont know if this where I'm going wrong.
I spoke to my guy friend and he said I'm too reserved when it comes to the guy I like and difficult. Its as if I expect the guy to read my mind all the time and make the first mood. I just dont want to get hurt or taken for an idiot...
Sighs* thanks to anyone who reads this :(

This was my exact thoughts and circumstances last year. I felt like there was something wrong with me, and that everyone deserves to be in a relationship except for me. That I was meant to walk alone.

That's bullshiz. Trust me on this. You're not MEANT to be alone! Just because you're not currently in a relationship, it doesn't mean it'll stay that way.

If they think you aren't interested, then they'll think it would be a waste of time to chase after you. It may sound odd, but guys have feelings too. They fear rejection as much as girls do. If you aren't clear on whether you like a guy or not, he's probably going to avoid further heartbreak (if he's interested).

I'm not sure of how old you are but I really wouldn't worry, I'm guessing as you on a teenage site your a teenager you have plenty of time for boyfreinds, when the time is right your guy will come.

It takes time but you'll fine him just keep trying you'll get there in the end

Hope this helped Contact me if you need to talk.

Hey Rain,

Firstly, allow me to share my experiences when it comes to relationships. I haven't got any. None. Zero. Zilch. I've never been on a date, nor have I ever kissed. Very few girls have been interested in me, and those that have tell me years later when any chance of a relationship are long gone. The only women I know and are in regular contact with are those from this very site, and as far as I'm aware non of them are interested in me either. How do you think I feel?

Examine the positives of what you have/had. You've been in relationships. Granted, they haven't worked out, but at 'least you have some experience under your belt and a better awareness for next time. You're also aware from this chat with your male friend that you come across as too reserved and find it difficult to express your feelings when it comes to men you like...that's perfectly normal.

No one on this earth is destined to live and die alone. Unfortunately this may be the case for some people, but for the vast majority they end up in happy, fulfilling relationships with a man/woman who love them deeply. It can take years for this to happen, you just have to be patient. Find a guy you click with, then show interest. You may find it difficult, but what do you have to lose from trying? Absolutely nothing.

Don't blame yourself for your not-so-good love life. Instead, look back on your past relationships, see what went wrong and why, then use that knowledge to build a better, strong relationship in the future!

You seem like a lovely person; I'm sure one day things will work out for you.

Hi Rain (lovely name, btw!)

You are not defined by another person being in your life..you are not defined by having a 'Relationship'. You are more than that!

Go out and nurture yourself, do the things you like to do, have fun, surround yourself with good people who enjoy you and who you enjoy..and when the time is right, you'll find someone.

Wanting/needing/longing/or otherwise pining away for a guy won't get you one. Often, these things happen when you least expect it..and when you're taking full care of yourself..it just happens when you're out there living and enjoying your life and just making yourself available by being out there.