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So... My boyfriend and I have been dating for three months now... Except, something about "us" makes me feel sad. We never, ever talk. Maybe a "hey" here and there, but nothing more than that. All of our friends say that we're both too shy... Do you have any idea how we can "warm up" more to each other? Thanks

Go out, not a movie though cuz u wont have a chance to really talk while seeing a movie, but go to dinner, go have a picnic,go visit popular sights and stuff. Be confident, encourage conversation, im pretty shy too but try to b as confident as u can.

Haha yeah thanks for the help umm i've actually been considering that, but i thought it would be sorta awkward for us... I mean, what would happen if we did nothing but talk about the weather?

well ask him about his life, if ur dating him, im assuming u want to get to know him better. ask him about his background, his parents, hobbies, intrests, favorite colour food..anythin just encourage talk, miost likely hell ask u the same stuff back, and then u got urself a decient conversation

Haha thats what I thought too!!! Except I planned on saying, "So... to pass time.... can you tell me about yourself?" I just thought that that would sound VERY corny

hahaha well maybe start it like " so tell me bout urself" or "lets get to know eachother better", then ask him a question. im sure everythin will work itself out

Try to ask him open-ended questions instead of the simple yes and no questions.

Open-ended question: Can you describe your ideal vacation?

Closed-ended question: Do you like to go on vacations?

Actually, a movie would be a great idea. Go to a movie at around 3 or 4 pm, and then after, go out to dinner somewhere. The movie will give you something to talk about and break the ice. You know, start out with, "So what did you think of that movie?" When he answers, tell him what you thought about the movie, and maybe say something about how you liked the actors. If you play it right, you can stem out from movies, into music, into what he likes to do in his spare time.

Play truth. That's what I usually do with new boyfriends. We Play truth for hours! That way, you can learn about each other and it can be fun too

Wait a sec...you're dating someone for 3 months and you don't talk with them? That should tell you that there's still something very important there.

People are drawn to different things, and sometimes it's not conversation...sometimes it's just being with them, simply their physical presence that's comforting and something that makes it 'work'. If that's the case, my advice would be to just enjoy it..you don't need to connect with words, there are other ways, and you guys have found it.

Don't listen to what others say..they're just observing, their not experiencing what you have. If it works for you guys, then leave it alone. When the time comes for words, I'm sure you'll be able to come up with them.