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Darn it. I did try to ask her out as friends, but didn't tell her that I was shy, or what I was thinking about her...

And she said she's busy.

Darned be me. I might have a chance tomorrow, since the whole class will be at a presentation - a 6 hour one, somewhere near a park, and I might tell her everything and invite her.

Well, I dunno, need some sort of tip, since she did not appear today.

Should I ask her a day before the actual opportunity, or do I look needy?

I think you should ask her again.. but i still stick by careful you don't keep asking over and over and over, it may mess things up. However, if she did seem interested but busy maybe it'll work this time.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

you should make the move while she still likes you or she will just go off you because she'll think you dont like her and just approach her when shes on her own and start a normal conservation and then tell her your feelings and then go on from therexxxx

Alex, you're over thinking this.

Quit with the idea of 'ASKING HER OUT'...it's freaking you out. It sounds so serious, you're making it out to be more of a commitment than it actually is. You're looking to make a new friend, not find a bride. Approach it as two people starting a convo. You can do that? Nothing about the future, don't talk about what to name the kids or which Uni they should attend.

so, a very simple 'Hi!", followed by a 'How are you today?". Maybe a gen'l comment about the weather, or a compliment of some sort. Then, walk away. The next day you do the same, maybe add something. And so forth. You build on the previous days convo, slowly. If it develops, it develops. If it fizzles, it fizzles. You can't take a giant leap to where you want to be. It's slow. Take it slow.

^ Spock, oh im sorry sam1 (just as i got down not to write spoke =/)
is mostly right, once you start over thinking things things fall apart.

But you also need to take into account of what she is thinking too.

Because you already asked her to the park MULTIPLE times. Friends or NO friends, she has given you a NO. It doesn't matter how you spin it. This wont work out. A girl that is even sorta interested would at least give you a chance and try to make another time to go. But if the girl just gives rather lame excuses that are always in the negative, it wont happen.

So my advice is, cut your loses. Learn from what went wrong here. Which clearly is i don't think she liked you at all.(this can be debated) And move on. Also if you are shy with a girl, it probably wont work out unless some miracle happens, like the stuff that happens in disney movies.

So learn form this and work on getting out of your shell before making theses leaps of faith of THINKING they like you. You need to KNOW they like you, and you need to know you like her. and a number of other things.

Forgive the crappy grammar!
"The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. " - Confucius
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