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Well I have a problem. I met this guy four years ago in school. Firstly I didn't feel anything, but he was in love with me. Few months later it hit me. After all those years feeling haven't changed. I thought he was over me, but he is not. He was always too shy to talk to me, but he sat next to me every Tuesday and Wednesday morning this year. Sometimes we spoke few words. I'm graduating in a month, but I'm already over with school, so I'm not seeing him anymore. He is staying here for another year.
The problem is, I don't know, how to forget him after all that time. I can't even remember time, when I didn't think about him.
And I'm sure I will meet him again. I always do. We don't even live in the same city, but something always brings us together again.

Its kinda simple, but think about someone else.

try to meet someone else and pin your hopes on him. Its kinda self destructive. But if you just can't get your mind off someone, then make it someone ELSE.

But really the best thing is to understand you don't need anyone. That you shouldn't even look for someone until you can live alone. This way the relationship is a plus, not something to lean on, something you MUST have so you can be well.

Also, if you never really talked. You aren't in love, its just a crush. You are in love with the IDEA, not the actual person because you don't even know them really. If you start liking someone once you really start to know em, is close to love, but not quiet. Its something that you will know when you feel it.

But ive been there, and i will tell you, crushes aren't love. Its love in the IDEA of what could or can be, not actually what is.

Forgive the crappy grammar!
"The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. " - Confucius
"The guy in the back always has something to say"

Don't worry, I know him. It has been 4 years, and becasue we never really talked (by this I mean like when you are talking with your friends.. that is not awkward). But we talked a little when we were together(twice a week for an hour). I know some things that only his closest friends know.

Thank you for opinion. I was thinking about getting somebody else on my mind and it kinda works.

The brain is easy to cheat , the hard one is the heart in my opnion.

i had the same.. but we came back-

id say that it just takes time. maybe get on to the dating scene and going on dates might help to take your feeling away from that person. it wont happen over night.