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Jasmine, I guess I'm still stuck on why you can't just say this to him?

Letters are easy for the sender but often more awkward for the recipient. You know him, think about his probable reaction to reading this.

The problem for me with letters is that you cannot respond and manage that reaction, so there's a much greater risk that you won't get the intended response from him.

You've known this guy forever, might I suggest you send him something just suggesting that you have something you'd like to share with him on the phone and set up a time to talk? You increase the chances of being able to get what you want here if you can manage what comes after you say what you feel.

I've somewhat read through all the posts, and I must say, it really isn't quite convenient to recieve a letter form someone telling you that they like you a lot. I personally would prefer a physical conversation, as it would feel genuine.

But then again, I probably would jokingly ask them about a scenario in which we were dating and then see their response. Sometimes things don't always have to be put right out there.

the thing with telling him face to face is that i have a feeling that if i do do it that way, i will bottle it, and say it wrong/lMake him feel awkward about it. Telling him via a phone convo will be the same, i suspect.

and meeting up with him isn't actually very convieniet as he lives 2 hours drive away

^Well then, what do you intend on doing once you share your feelings, and assuming he feels the same way? A long-distance relationship is no cup 'o tea.

i have ways and means of getting from Norwich (where i live) to Haverhill (where he lives). it's just that it takes organisation to get down to there. I realise that even if he does return my feelings it may be hard, but surely with a little effort on either side hypothetically if he likes me back, it would be possible

Thanks for all the advice, but have just solved the whole problem by deciding not to tell him. I highly suspect he does not feel the same way as i do, and to go ahead and tell him anyway would be highly selfish of me. It was a stupid, not to mention selfish, idea in the first place to even concider telling him, as it would have put at risk one of my nost valued freindships. I realised that i would rather keep that safe than risk it by telling him.