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So long story short me and my best friend are in love. I want to go out with her and make the most of what we have now, she wants to go out with me too but she keeps saying things like "if I kissed you I'd fall in love with you and then id eventually loose you". Because Ive known her for nearly 4 years now she doesn't want to loose me but she loves me too and basically we don't know what to do because it hurts more and more.

There is one thing though...because were best friends we talk about who we thinks hot but she talks about guys to me as though I'm a girl and it hurts me so much :/

This girl means apsolutly everything to me, she's basically family an I would quite happily marry her but were on 16 and there years and obsticles in the way before any of that.

HELP ME!!!!

Situation I've been presented with before is often along the lines of:

"Is it worth the risk of losing a friendship?"

You have to analyse it...

It reminds me of a line from a movie called Philadaelphia with Tom Hanks and Denzel Washington.. "Is the juice worth the squeeze."

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

^ yes Your at a crossroads. Since you have admited feelings its an all in or you drag yourself out back to the friends only zone.

So its up to you want you think is better overall. If need be take a break from the friendship, stay friends but take your own time away from her. It would be like a breakup.

OR you can go along with it all and try to make the best of your relationship. If done well you two could be a great couple, but you'd have to work outa the friend deal together.

So both ways are hard, its up to you and her to pick what you want to do.

Forgive the crappy grammar!
"The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. " - Confucius
"The guy in the back always has something to say"

well i agree with the others above me.. you can judge if its wort loosing your relationship


Well 2 of my Ex- are friends of mine now

and WERE before..

but our relationship was for some weeks so... i dont really Find it a big deal

Are you sure that you are definitely in love with each other and it isn't just your closeness overwhelming both of you a bit?
You may think you love her but really, you're just really really close friends.
With the jealousy, you may actually only be scared that you might lose her to one of them and that closeness won't be there.

I want you to really analyse this situation the best you can because if you don't you may end up making a big mistake which you'll regret.

If you are certain that you are both perfect for each other, I recommend going through the "No matter what happens we'll still be friends." thing beforehand.
You could turn out to be an amazing couple, but no one can predict the future my friend.

Good luck.

I'm in the same boat exept i'm 13 and She doesn't know how much i really like her.

I hate to break it to you and her, because Ive been there exactly like you have, but you've already lost your friendship as badly as you would have if yous date and break up... The feelings aren't going to change unless you give it a go, or take a break from each other (and the feelings would come back as soon as you're friends again)..most likely the first. Either you date, things go crap and you lose each other, or you go on liking each other but find other people and continue to hurt each other until your friendship goes crap. It's way too late for the "not losing each other" stuff, one way or another, you're going to lose each other unless the relationship works wonderfully, so.. you basically just have to choice which way you want to lose it to and which is more worth it, pain of dating and losing each other, pain of watching each other with other people and slowly lose it over time.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

Don't know why every relationship started with a close friend has to end up with everything being ruined and "losing them". Just make sure you don't end it on bad terms if it ever comes to that, which is highly likely at our age. I've gone out with a very close friend of mine. Got into an argument with her before splitting, but I realised that it was stupid. So I made up with her, we hugged it out and we're still very close friends, if not closer. Methinks you're going to regret it if you don't give the relationship a go.

Close friend and best friend, big difference.
crush/like/relationship and in love (If it's real legit love), big difference.

But It's my opinion, you may have yours.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3