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what do you do when you LOVE someone... ok... you LOVE them.... don't want to live without them, can't even IMAGINE how shitty life would be.... yeah they have faults and sometimes you get so upset but you LOVE them...
but then theres doubts?
like... yeah i want him for forver... but hes my first bf, i feel like maybe i shoulda had that typical teenage experience, dating a lot of boys and such... ive only kissed/had sex with him.... but he has exes... so i feel uneven
i know its unfair but i feel it..... plus i know im lucky to have found The One right away and not have to worry about heartbreak but still... idk why i feel like im missing out when i have everything i ever anted and needed in front of me
yeah, he could be MORE perfect and theres things that i dont like.... but he treats me WAY better than 99% of guys would and i KNOW it.
idk maybe im posting this cos i found pics on his phone of some random girls legs
he'd never cheat... but i have such BAD self esteem that its like ".... really? and are you jacking off to that? wishing i looked like that? what the fuck is the problem?"
but really, because i knwo how mazing he is, i dont think its a big thing... its jus the initial reaction
idk... tell me what to think and please forgive typos.
the emptiness will haunt you
i shut my eyes and once again the pleasure strangles me;i taste the tears of sweet indulgence,pain,and fantasy.
and how can you look at me when i can't stand myself?
If it's really bothering you then talk to him about it, I'm sure he'll understand if you have worries. Lol, just don't accuse him of anything. And I guess that finding "the one" straight off makes up for not dating a load of guys in other ways than just less history etc. He'll help motivate you through any tough patches in your life and always be there if you ever need a shoulder to lean on. You might not have that if you were still dating other guys.
Basically, because of your "inexperience" in dating, you're curious as to what else is out there. The main reason why teenagers/young adults go from one partner to the next isn't because of sex, or variety...it's exploration. You discover new characteristics, skills and traits simply by being with new individuals, and I think that's what you're longing for. Call it a basic human need.
Evidently you care very much for your boyfriend to the point where you have identified and accepted his faults (which is very mature, by the way). You're fortunate you've found someone who loves you the same way, and I think you just need to keep that in mind. At the end of the day, what would you rather have; a lot of dating experience but no long-term loving relationship with someone who truly cares for you, or little-to-no dating experience but have the fortune to be with someone who could potentially be your "soul-mate"?
I wouldn't worry too much about the picture of a girl's legs on his phone. If he were sexually unsatisfied with you or had other intentions/desires, I'm pretty sure legs would be the least of your concern. Besides, a lot of people - both men and women - look at naughty imagery and the opposite sex despite being in loving relationships. Call if a basic human need...again.
Thank you Kirk.... you are wayyy too smart and you really put things into perspective for me.
Just for the record - I would never break up with him just to have that dating experience... I mean I guess the grass is green and I wonder what other guys might be like, but I know if I let him go once, that's the end of it and I'm never going to find anyone better.
As for the legs, is it okay to ask him about it? I mean they are really sexy legs and I'd like to know if I know this person so I can ogle them as well.... ;D
the emptiness will haunt you
i shut my eyes and once again the pleasure strangles me;i taste the tears of sweet indulgence,pain,and fantasy.
and how can you look at me when i can't stand myself?
Thank you Kirk.... you are wayyy too smart and you really put things into perspective for me.
I try my best.
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Originally Posted by Violet Surrender
As for the legs, is it okay to ask him about it? I mean they are really sexy legs and I'd like to know if I know this person so I can ogle them as well.... ;D
Was you supposed to be using his phone? If he doesn't know about it then I would highly recommend not mentioning it due to the fact that he may get the impression you can't trust him and you're somewhat paranoid. If he does know you were on his phone, then I suppose you could casually ask him - just don't appear judgemental or too aggressive about it.
i was looking for a picture to set as his wallpaper... so i was specifically looking for pics, but they were like right there at the top of phone-saved pics.
the emptiness will haunt you
i shut my eyes and once again the pleasure strangles me;i taste the tears of sweet indulgence,pain,and fantasy.
and how can you look at me when i can't stand myself?
Today's Toppers
i forgot what i wanted to title this....
Would it be obvious that you searched intentionally?
