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So I just graduated high school and have recently been in touch with a few of my previous teachers. As much as I respect a student-teacher relationship, I have developed feelings for my 23-year old (previous) teacher. I guess they weren't really out of the blue as he and I really became close considering he helped me through some health challenges that I faced. He's not married, and I don't think he's seeing anyone, but I'm not sure if I should speak up about how I feel. I considered sending him an email, but that was before he mentioned that he felt that "emails don't take guts" considering you don't have to deal with how the other person might react (we were discussing something else at the time).

I would really appreciate the help as I don't want our current relationship to be ruined completely by some stupid actions on my part. Thanks!

Just start light conversation. Go back and forth and then maybe go out for coffee or something.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

If you're not sure whether you should speak up to your teacher about how you feel, then think twice, really. Don't do anything rashly, not to regret or something. I'm glad you didn't send an e-mail to him - as you said, you just graduated high school and I think that you're mature enough to express your feelings in more serious way than via the Internet (how would you feel if he sent you such an e-mail?). If you think that he feels the same or is interested in you, just ask him if he wants to go out for coffee or something with you, but don't tell him everything at the beginning - just show your teacher that you're interested in him, because if he likes you too, he's gonna do something. But if you think that for him you're just a friend, give up, not to ruin your relationship. Give him some time and maybe one day he will feel something to you?


Sorry for the mistakes and the chaotic character of my pronouncement, but I'm from Poland and just trying to pick up the language.

So maybe I should add in the fact that I would LOVE to tell him. He really seems to be the type of person that I could imagine spending the rest of my life with.... If I do chose to tell him, how would you suggest doing that?

This is a crush mostly. Do you see yourself at your age to date someone who is elder? I'm only guessing your ago though, if it's close than just try your best and speak up. Find the perfect time etc.

We're not even 5 years apart in age...and my sister married somebody 9 years older. I've seen bigger age gaps. So I know the gap isn't a force to be reckoned with.

Along those same lines, I am really mature for my age...I've seen things and been through a lot more than others older than myself, so, yes, I can definitely see myself dating someone who is a bit older than myself.

YES

This is a crush.

One thing im pretty confident in is knowing when someone has a crush on someone else.

For instance, you say you could live the rest of your life with him. Yet you know nothing about him really. Crushes don't work out most of the time because you IMAGINE what he is like, yet reality is never what you want it to be.

Yea he COULD be perfect for you, but im pretty damn sure he isn't perfect.


Now on to the brighter stuff. Since i assume you aren't some 14 year old girl believe in fairy tales, you should understand this very easily not work out. With that in mind you can contact him however you want. Email is fine, its just to get to know him am i correct? So the first step is to show you are interested, and see where it goes form there. He might not even want to date a former student at all. But you wont know until you try right.


Ok good luck!

Forgive the crappy grammar!
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How old are you both?

Teacher dating a student is frowned upon, it can easily wreck his reputation and it can lose him his job, if i were you, i'd stay well clear.

Id have to know how old you are.... but it doesn't sound like a good idea. Not even close. This can seriously mess up his career, even if you're not dating after highschool, there's to no way prove that yous didn't start in school and it could possibly put a bad name on him, get him in trouble...etc.. i wouldn't. it's just a crush.

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