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I met someone a year ago, got on really well, didn't really speak much since, texted a bit, promised to meet up some day, but never did. Then the other week I invited him out with a couple of friends of mine today. While I was walking round with him, I dunno... I think I like him now. I had an inkling I did a year ago, but didn't give it much thought...

But he only stayed out a bit 'cause he had to go home, and we hugged goodbye, said the whole "we have to meet up again some time soon," thing, and he left. And for the remainder of the day I was aware that I was, in the back of my mind, missing him.

So. What do I do now? I'm not very confident with pursuing these sort of feelings... I've only ever been in two relationships in my life and I'm incredibly nervous about giving away the fact I like someone. I really want to meet up again and get to know him a bit more, asdfghjkl what happens now? Any advice appreciated!

ask him to hang out again. maybe just the 2 of you, if you want.

Yeah, I was thinking that, but gahhh nervousness :')

I remember you! You had a crush on someone who worked at a...pet shop, I think? Oh, and you liked Doctor Who!

Anyway Helen, fortunately the advice I have for you is fairly simple yet o-so effective; you need to initiate contact more. You've known each other for quite some time now but it appears as though you very rarely meet-up, which is an issue because it impedes the ability to get to know each other better. Evidently you both get on fine with each other, but the relationship hasn't progressed to a level where you're speaking on a regular basis.

Solution? Ask him out again! The more often you ask him out and initiate contact with him, the more likely it is for him to do the same. You've already taken the first steps with the "We need to meet up again soon" line - you just need to make sure it happens. It appears that, for the moment, you're going to have to put aside your lack of confidence and make the move...because otherwise nothing may happen. I'm not saying ask him out on a date or whatever, as I know that would it would make your nervous and show your intentions more, so perhaps organise another get-together with friends and invite him to tag along? Has he ever made the attempt to contact/ask you out anywhere?

Finally, I highly recommend you establish some form of additional contact with him, whether it be by asking for his MSN or adding him on Facebook; it just increases the likely-hood of you getting to know each-other better.


Hope that helps.

Don't be nervous. For all you know, he could be feeling the same way and thinking the same things. I'm sure it'll turn out fine.

Yes yes! Turns out the guy in the pet shop was my best friend's sister's ex! It's a small world! xD

Right, well, I have been initiating contact more, when I invited him out today, I sent a text out of the blue kind of (having previously chatted on facebook about having to meet up some day), since about... Tuesday I think, we've been texting quite regularly. So yes, from chatting every so often on facebook chat, we're talking every few days now :3

Thank you!

don't be nervous! if he says yes to want to hangout, then he obviously WANTS to hangout with you. pick something fun to do.

Well, he agreed when I said we should meet up again some day, so I guess that's a positive sign :')

Yes, it is, so the conclusion is - ASK HIM OUT. I'm sure it's gonna work, believe me.

Just ask him to hang out with you and friends, group outtings are important there's no pressure on your or him then, then gradually just ask him out on his own.