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So there is this guy...let's call him "F" I've known F for about 3years now,and we always had feelings for eachother, but he's a little older than me and I never saw him, so we've always just been really close friends. F lives in florida, and i used to also, but now i live in california. I just went to Florida to visit, and I finally saw him for the first time in forever, but we both decided I'm too young and far away to make a relationship work right now. Something changed when I visited, and we started talking more than we usually did, he would call me everyday (after i got back to cali) and talk about how he was gonna come see me for his birthday. Now he's pretty much straight up ignoring me. He's done this once before and he told me its cus he was trying to get over me, because we couldnt be together and he had a girlfriend. yeah i get that,but we were friends before anything so he should still be able to talk to me? any thoughts? sorry this is so dang long.

He might be doing the same thing he was doing before. It's a common coping technique that people resort to. If you pretend someone doesn't exist, it's easier to get over them. From the information you gave, that's what it seems like. He might have feelings for you but he knows that it won't work out so he's ignoring you to try and keep his sanity and get over you. For some people, it's hard being just friends with someone you have romantic feelings for.

It wasn't too long and I understand ur problem. Myself and my friends have all been in it. Basically u can't make him call/text u if he doesn't want to. If for whatever reason feels that staying in contact with u is hurting him then for his own sake he shouldn't. U are able to get on with ur life and seperate that u once liked him deeply and now ur just friends. For him, talking to u is hurting him, it's either not letting him move on to the next girl or makes him sad, or takes too much time, etc. U can try convincing him that his beliefs are BS but they are his beliefs and may not change. My advice, tell him u really like him as a friend, u don't want to imagine him not in ur life, u will give him time and space but hope that u two can continue ur long distance friendship.

I'm sorry, but why are you so worried about whether he is talking to you or not.
You live miles away from this boy, and sounds like his age may be a way of him taking advantage of your blissful thoughts of him. He sounds like he might be using you as a crutch when his attempts of relationships with others crashes and burns.
Maybe you should turn the other way.

Thank you all for your different points of view, they have been very helpful.

i think you should focus less on one person for the attention you maybe feel you need and look within

Honestly, he's most likely dealing with feelings he has that he wants to forget.