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Hey,
Last week me and this guy I have liked for about a year had a heart to heart. We were seeing each other before (unofficially), but it wasn't going anywhere and we just stopped talking. We speak occasionally on blackberry messenger and on Thursday we spoke throughout the day then He called me and we talked about what happened before, what we could have done differently, how we felt etc.. the convo didn't seem real! I got answers to questions I've had running through my mind for soo long. I didn't hold back with anything I had to say, it all seemed to just flow. I just thought I had nothing to lose after all! I reassured him that I did really like him, but I found it difficult to express my feelings and I admitted that I could have put alot more effort into it. I let him know that it crossed my mind that he may have just been playing with my feelings back then, but he said if that is what he wanted to do he would have chosen someone else cos I'm a difficult person, but definitely worth it. It really did seem like we were back on track, he did say that he knew we would be in contact more after this convo and suggested we went for dinner.

BUT, Ever since then NOTHING! I called him on Monday and he didn't answer or return my call and I'm very stubborn, so I didn't bother calling again I just thought "okay I called you, I'm not going to bother again" which is the kinda attitude I had before which clearly got me nowhere!! I don't really know what to do next? :? Okay we had this conversation, so whats next? is this it? I'm not sure where I stand... there is something still there and I don't think that after all this time he would call me just for the fun of it..

Its actually really bugging me :( .. so any suggestions, advice?

I'm really sorry to hear. However, you should try and give him personal space. Maybe he was offended or something. You could call on an anonymous number and see if he responds.

He sounds like he does care about you since he called you. He called you and talked about it. I'm sure if you give him time and space, he'll call back and you can talk about what happened. It seems as if you're drifting away from each other after that.

Perhaps he may be scared.

What you did was basically throw yourself at him, and piled on a bunch of emotions at one time. Like David said, I suggest backing off slightly- let him come to you. Wait a week. After that, call him. If he doesn't respond... Well, that could be a problem.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Why would he be offended though? He was the one that asked all the questions. I didn't instigate any of it. I'm the kind of person that avoids talking about feelings and from the start of the conversation he was plugging me.

I won't call him. If it's space he wants, its space he will get.

As I said to the previous member.. He was asking all the questions, not me. I did not THROW myself at him. He asked what happened back then, How I felt back then and I simply answered his questions. Not once did I mention currently having feelings for him, wanting to be with him or anything along those lines!! From the start of the conversation he was throwing questions at me and I answered them honestly, I don't see how you can call that "throwing yourself" at someone.

I'm giving him space, not even going to bother right now.