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Okay I have always been embarased to say this but finally have to.
There is this girl who I have been friends with for a long time and we are really close. We have never been out with eachother but we snog (obviously when both are single). I recently ended in a relationship, met up with her today and she just said "want a kiss?" so we made out for quite a while but never follow it up, we never hug, hold hands or tell eachother we love them, and we always tell eachother we are not going out.
She doesnt want to go out with me, I would with her but not really bothered to be honest but we do snog quite often.
Is this normal or ok?
It's..dumb? what's the point? id just break it off before you form feelings then get crushed and all that.
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
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Its called friends with benefits. There's really no problem with it. Just don't expect more then that- friends with benefits... Don't make it more then it really is.
"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot
Its called friends with benefits. There's really no problem with it. Just don't expect more then that- friends with benefits... Don't make it more then it really is.
I can't say I agree; usually one or both people with the FWB "relationship" get too attached, usually resulting in problems.
I have to say that continuing this "friends with benefits" thing is probably not a good idea. More times than not it ends up causing a hell of a lot of pain for one or both of the people involved and could easily lead to the end of the friendship. My advice is to go back to being just friends, especially if you do value the friendship to any degree.
In all fairness, you are probably still hurting from the end of your last relationship- I forget the details, but even if you did end it, it probably still sucks. I can understand why you would want a friends with benefits, but reading what everyone else has posted, I have to say I agree with nixing this whole arrangement.
"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot
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Re: We kiss but not going out - ok?
This actually happened with my ex, a few times before we got together we'd kiss - Spontaneously, sorta like it was meant too happen. We both liked eachother, but when I asked she'd be like 'oh I can kiss anyone and it doesn't mean shit' ...Okay...
Then we got together a few weeks later.
It wasn't a friends with benefits type thing, but yeah - Kissing when not going out, on a regular basis with one person, I didn't really like it To be honest..
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We kiss but not going out - ok?
