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Ok so the first day of school i met this amazing guy in science class!! When he walked in the room it was love at first sight for me... i didnt know that could even happen for real but yeah, it did lol. When he walked in i could not stop staring at him... hes soooo hot and so cute... and theres justt something about him, its hard to describe!

He saw me staring at him and then he sat next to me!!! I was like omg omg why did he sit next to me?? He didnt say anything, he was just looking at the teacher cuz she was starting to talk. All i could think about was how amazing he is and how close he was to me!! I kept trying to look at him so i was like sneaking peeks trying not to be obvious lol. I dunno if he noticed. Later the teacher said we had to pick a lab partner... right away i turned to him and i was like hey do you wanna be my partner? He smiled and said yes!! I was sooo happy and my heart was beating so hard, it was crazy to hear his voice and look into his eyes a little!! He has these amazing blue eyes too!!!

We started talking and i was a little shy and nervous cuz i wanted to impress him, but he made me feel super comfortable, it was like magic lol. We totally clicked and i felt like we had this connection! It was like butterflies in my stomach the whole time, i was so excited to be with him and get to know him and stuff! Whenever he talked i had to try hard to concentrate lol cuz i was so overwhelmed. And i kept thinking, seriously were gonna be lab parterns, how could this get any better???

I didnt know i could feel like this about someone. Ive had crushes before and liked guys and stuff but this is soooo totally different lol, its something else. I cant stop thinking about him all the time!! Its amazing being with him in class every day and being his partner, its only been a week but we have an awesome time together! I think im falling in love with him more and more and more every day!

Theres one problem and i know this is gonna sound bad... he has a gf! I know thats not good but i dont have any choice, i want him so bad and i feel like we are meant to be together!!! I dont want to like, force them to break up but i want them to lol. Maybe they arent super serious, i dont know! Ive never really had a serious bf before but this is serious for sure!!

I dont know what to do next but i want to show him how i feel. If i told him how i really feel he probably think im a crazy stalker instead of his friend lol. I have to do something, i want to hang out with him like, as a friend at my house or something. Is that a good idea??

Hey Kala,

I am afraid what you desire here is out of limits. He has a girlfriend, as such, he is out of limits. Besides, you have just met him and even if he was single you would need to know him better before getting into anything serious. So, my advice? Stay away from anything romantic with him.

It doesn't mean you can't develop a friendship though. A strong friendship can be born from this, you just have to control yourself and prevent your romantic feelings from getting in the way. Maybe someday he'll be single, or maybe not. Regardless, you shouldn't try anything now. There are more fish in the sea, remember that.

Best of luck.

"If I do good, people might accuse me of selfish, ulterior motives, but I will still do it. Because I believe no one is malicious, not in their core, in their raw being.
The best in them is clouded by sorrows and fears, take those away and you'll bring out the brightest of lights in them.
Because no one can be happy without being kind, without giving ourselves to another, and we all love to give ourselves, it is our true nature.
That is why, even if I might get disappointed, I'll always give the best I've got. A single candle can light a thousand others and still burn." - Skezra

First, how long have you known him? If it has been less then a few months, I promise you you aren't in love with him. This is most likely a crush, and steer clear of even considering dating this guy until he breaks up with his girlfriend. Do not be that bitch who starts shit. Odds are, its just a crush, and like a bad cold, will pass in time.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Thank you guys for the advice!! Yeah im not ready to make a move anyways, it probably sounds like i am lol but i wont. Trust me im not like that!! Maybe its best for him to make a move first anyways!

I definitely want to be his friend so i think you guys are right, i will just be his friend for now and ill try to be a really good friend. Plus im addicted to being with him lol and we are already kinda friends anyway so theres no turning back!!

Maybe i should give a better description of whats going on cuz i know the first post was basically "omg i love him" lol. I dunno how he feels about me, i know he likes me but like, as a friend i think. I cant tell if hes flirting or whatever but hes always so nice to me!! He is like super respectful of me and always cares about what i think. And he likes to make me laugh, thats a good sign right?

When we talked that first time it was awesome, he was curious about me and i was curious about him! He thinks my name is really cool... its funny cuz its like an Indian name but im definitely a white girl lol. (My parents are kinda weird like that lol they just liked the name.) But yeah hes like "thats such a cool name" and he says other nice things too, like if i make a mistake he says its ok and he tries to make me feel better, just random stuff like that! I think hes just a nice guy so tho its hard to tell if hes flirting!

All my feelings are like right there whenever im with him but i try to hide them! I think hes used to a lot of attention from girls lol so maybe he thinks its normal. When were doing work in class he does most of the work cuz i get distracted by him and cant concentrate!! I end up just watching him or feeling overwhelmed. He probably thinks im a ditz or slow or something lol. Sometimes when hes looking thru a microscope or something i just stare at him!!

Hes 2 years older then me and i like that, hes more mature than most guys in school. Im 15 and hes 17, im a sophmore and hes a junior, the science class were in has 2 grades in it, so thats lucky for me!! I hope he likes younger girls tho cuz he guessed that i was 14 lol!

I just want him to know he has a good chance with me, like a 100% chance! Do you think theres something i can do to show him that or would that not be cool?

I dont really what to do now except write about him here and get all excited about him and wait to see him again!

Lol can i use this as my diary? It feels good to get this stuff out!!

I would go with "just a nice guy". I mean, that, and that if he's used to a lot of attention, increases the risk of you getting played. Most guys think of one thing, especially around that age: the fastest way to get with a girl. You can't do that.

Like, on the name thing. I tell girls I find their names pretty all the time. Don't show a crazy amount of interest- then he'll get bored and that will be that. Just play it cool.

And sure, you can use this as a diary if you really want to.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

You're not in love, my friend. He is taken, and that sucks. Be his friend, and if things dont work out, capitalize.

Ok he is coming to my house tomorrow night!! I felt like were good enough friends now that its not akward plus i had an excuse! We were behind on some of our work in class and we kinda hve to do it together so it was kinda perfect lol. I dont even know what it will be like!!

I asked my parents if my "lab partner" could come over, they saw thru me lol and they asked me if its a guy, i said yes and totally started blushing lol and i think they got the picture. My mom was like "dont worry, we wont tease you while hes here!" Lol this should be interesting!

Pokemon master - yeah it really sucks that hes taken but im going to be his friend anyways, i guess i have to wait or see what happens with his gf but trust me he is worth it!!

Roadless thank you for the advice again!!

Yeah maybe hes just a nice guy. He doesnt try to hit on every girl or anything lol, hes not super outgoing like that hes actually kinda quiet like me. Girls like him cuz hes just the kind of guy that girls like, there are lots of reasons!! My friend Kate got to meet him and she told me later she has a crush on him now lol.

Maybe hes just being nice like you said, i know ishouldnt read into things especially since he has a gf so i will just chill lol. I will just be his friend and i definitely try to hide my feelings so we will see how it goes i guess!!

And yeah i will post updates if thats ok, tell me if it gets annoying lol. Its just cool to get this stuff off my chest honestly, lol you can probably tell im a little wound up. I can talk to my friends or my closest friend about this and im doing that anyways but some of its really personal or its harder to describe when youre talking if that makes sense. Its either this or i just sit around thinking about him lol.

You have no idea how excited i am for tomorrow, probably more than i should be lol cuz its just as friends but thats still really exciting!! But i promise i will chill out lol.

Omg story time! Last night was great, heres what happened!!

He texted me when he was on his way so i sat by the window and watched for him. I know... pretty sad lol. When he finally got there i was so excited, i opened the door for him and introduced him to my parents and everything, i had to stop myself from jumping up and down lol, it was so exciting!! He talked to my parents for a couple min, i think they wanted to get to know him a little.

My mom offered to order a pizza and he was like "that sounds awesome" lol, so that was cool. Then we started our homework at the kitchen table. I know were just friends but it was amazing being with him like that... i think its different outside of school cuz all our attention is on each other!! We were like joking around and had fun, it was so awesome! And w e still finished early so we had all this extra time!

I showed him my room, its pretty much all girly stuff lol but he liked it. We sat on my bed and talked and stuff, my heart was beating super fast cuz we were so alone and my feelings were all like rushing to the surface!! I wanted to kiss him or something so bad, part of me was thinking this is my chance, but i knew it was waaay too soon for that, dont worry lol i controlled myself. But the thoughts got worse sitting on my bed, i kept thinking, this is where hes gonna take my virginity! Lol... eventually!

He asked me if im on facebook and we friended each other! Sooo happy lol, now its real! Ok i know that sounds stupid but it feels like hes saying im definitely his friend now. When i saw the thing on facebook that says "Andy and Kala are now friends" i think my heart skipped a beat lol. So cool!! (Yeah his name is Andy)

Now i can see what he writes on facebook, its like a whole new way to be obsessed with him lol, im totally doin it! Dont worry im not flirting with him just stalking him lol. The best part is he has these amazing pictures on his facebook so ive been looking at them!!! I was sad theres no shirtless pictures, theyre still really good tho lol.

So after the facebook thing we watched tv with my parents for a while, and we were talking too, it was great!! We did that until he had to leave. After he left my parents told me they like him, i wasnt surprised but i was still happy cuz it would suck if they hated him or something!

I wanna ask him to come over again but theres no excuse this time... maybe just ask if he wants to hang out? Since we are like officially friends now that wouldnt be weird right?

Lol at "love" being used bc youre wanting to hump this guys brains out...

Its ok to want him to break up with his GF as long as your actions dont precipitate it....

I dont know if being alone at home with this guy is real smart at this point; something you might regret might happen.

Take it slow and try to be friends with him; if it is meant to be youll hook up at some point as GF BF down the line. Dont forcethings or do stuff physically you wouldnt normally at your age to "get him". That never turns out good in the end.

Yeah thats fair and i totally know what youre saying. Im definitely not making a move cuz even if he didnt have a gf it would be too early!

The feelings i have for him are not just sexual trust me... that part just kind of came up when we were sitting on my bed lol. It was all in my head tho, i promise im not doing anything!! Thats why im getting it out here, im not even flirting with him!

I think i will call him to hang out again, i dont want to seem desperate tho so maybe ill wait and call him tomorrow.

Im bored today so i was like making drawings of "Andy & Kala" in hearts and stuff like that! Lol all i can do right now is daydream about him!