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So. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for.. Seven months now? I've known him for years, we went to school together, and we've been close friends since we met. We did date briefly after we first met, but it became a long distance relationship and fell apart. Now that I've moved back into the area we're giving it another shot.

Here's the thing, I haven't kissed him yet. In fact, I haven't kissed anyone yet. I know he's had a few relationships before me, but he was my first, and only. I'm asexual, and I don't have much of an interest in the physical aspect of our relationship, but I kind of feel like if I was going to kiss anyone, he would be my first. I can tell he wants us to, he keeps dropping hints, and he keeps "accidentally" kissing my forehead, but I really don't know how to act in this situation. I have no idea what I'm doing at all.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, does anyone have any advice about how to go about this? I know the basic mechanics of what I'm doing, but I'm too awkward to just do it. Any help would be nice. :c

Well, I'd usually say just do it... it should come naturally to you.
But with you being asexual and all, and me not being very knowledgeable on the subject, it might be different.

Another Asexual here! And your username is TARDIS... subtle.

I kinda know what you mean. You could just ask him if he wants to kiss. It'll more than likely be a little awkward at first, but you get the hang of it eventually.
However I say this but my first kiss involved him shoving his tongue down my throat and i didn't realize what the hell was going on at first so i totally didn't react when it first happened.

Kissing can be enjoyable, even if you're not interested in the sexual aspects of a relationship. The way i see it, it's just one of the many, many forms of showing affection.

But if you're not comfortable with kissing, then don't kiss. if you think you might like it then let him kiss you.
Don't worry about not knowing what to do - most people don't when it's their first kiss. It's a first, it's understandable.
So what I mean is, you don't have to instigate a kiss - you can let him take care of that. I still wouldn't worry about it, if you're too awkward to do anything about it then there's not much anyone can say to get you past being awkward, right?
I say just ease into it, let him make the first move, learn from there.

However I would just be blunt about it. Ask him if he wants to kiss. If you don't want to do that then just wait for him to make the first move. If you're not going to instigate it yourself then there' not much else you can do.

My boyfriend asked me one day if he could kiss me, and it happened. It was my first kiss, and...pretty awkward. I had no idea what I was doing. But now that I kinda figured it out, it's much more enjoyable.

Heh. I can now more accurately contribute to these sort of threads.

Okay, so the idea of one's first kiss can be a little daunting or perhaps even very scary to some people; it's a new, rather personal experience that you wish to share with someone you feel affectionate for...but you're also worried that you mess up or make a fool of yourself. Most people tend to go through this "phase", yet the vast majority of them wind up having no problems at all. It's part of being human, so more often than not the ability to kiss comes naturally. My advice to you, as cliché as it may sound, is to simply not concern yourself with it. If you think about it too much you'll either withdraw from the experience completely, or you'll end up messing up simply because you thought about messing up. In other words - "Just go with the flow".

Best of luck to you.

If you don't feel or want to kiss him, you don't have to. It isn't supposed to be forced, the first kiss is often a bit awkward though, To be honest.
Just, talk to him about it? Or ask him to peck you? :3