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Yes, this is a long post. But please take the time to read it, I genuinely need your help/advice.

My boyfriend and I are both 16 years old, and we have been dating since we were 13. Neither one of us have ever had another serious relationship and I thought we were both perfectly fine with that.

Well, about three months ago my boyfriend told me that he was curious as to whether or not we are really meant to be together. He said he wanted a "break" (meaning not breaking up, just taking a breather to see what else is out there) and of course I was devestated, but was going to give him to the time he needed.

The next morning he called me and told me he had thought the night before that he wanted to date other girls, but he had actually stayed up the entire night crying. He said he loved me more than anything and that he didn't want to lose me and he wanted to date and not take the break. So, I took him back.

I explained to him that if this ever happened again, we would definitely take a break/break up.

Everything has been fine, but I'm wondering now if I should have made us take that break. I don't want to marry him one day and then have him feel like he may have married the wrong girl, but will never know. I love him more than anything, and I don't want to lose him. But I want to do what's best in the long-run for our relationship.

Any advice on what I should or shouldn't do or say?

3 words: Hall Pass

You mean 2 words. Jesus, people these days! xD




Back to topic, I know you don't want to hear this but marriage is a whole other thing. You both have been dating since you were 13, that's good. But we're still teenagers, we're restless, anything can happen in the next 5 years. People usually start dating seriously when their around 19-22-24 because they don't want to marry the first person they were in a serious relationhip with.

Flames die out easy peasy lemon squeezy. Even though your BF doesn't have any doubts, you're starting to have some.

Try taking a break, I don't mean dating other people, because that can be uncomfortable. Just take a break, tone it down a bit. Hang out with other friends, see if he's really that unique, that interesting.