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ok the backstory is, my boyfriends in a situation where he has to stay somewhere thats about 35 miles away from his work and where we used to live.

so he stays there, i found a """"friend"""" to stay with after the first """"friend"""" kicked me out,.. and i wake up every morning to take him to work (then sometimes i wait a couple hours, then go to work myself, except on days off) then after work i hang around his job til its time to go back. im supposed tobe there by 7am so he can be there by 8 but sometimes 1 of us or both of us is late.


anyway.

today he had to go to a new work location, so yesterday he told me to be right on time.
i was too tired to take a shower yesterday so i meant to wake up early and do it today... i didnt wake til 6:36 and then i still had to wait til like 6:45 to get into the bathroom to change my clothes, so i said "fuck it" to the shower, which got me upset.. i felt gross and didnt wanna run around all day like that, even though i was off work...

basically this is what happened (and im copypasting from a facebook convo so it might sound funny)



so today i woke up late and didnt have time for a shower so i was in a bad mood... since i didnt wanna walk around all day feeling gross, and yet im obligated to come get him and drive him to work all the time and yesterday he asked to make sure i was on time
so yeah i was just in a bad mood.... and then he started insultng me, like "watch your speed. if youd stop i'd give you directions" (he had to go to a new work location today) and i told him "we're turning around, if you're gonna talk shit to me you can just stay there"
and he said "dont fucking do this, who the fuck do you think you are?" and i said "right now, im your driver. i control where this car goes." and he said "ok, fine.... brandy" (his ex's name)...what do i do with this? thats a bunch of bullshit. this morning i was all readu to dump his ass and tell him to find his own damn rides,. i do this every fucking day... its hard on me, its hard on my job, i scarifice SO MUCH and i dont even get a thank you?! i get fucking insulted?! why should i put up with it.



so... yeah..
im stuck right now... i dont know what to do. we stayed quite the rest of the ride... but what i realyl wanted to say to him, because it was true at the time, was "i hate you. tomorrow you can spend your day off finding another rude for all the time, because this is the last time im doing this."

but now i dont know.... i would be nothing without him, but i cant forgive him that easily. im still mad... but i dont know.
does the good outweigh the bad? should i just forgive him and forget about it? or am i right saying he was a fucking asshole?!

and even if he is... what about all those good times?
i dont want to throw them away.... just... he insulted me when i was already feeling like shit... and i do so much for him.. fuck.. whatever,

the emptiness will haunt you

Well first of all, is this your ex who cheated on you? if so then id like to slap you for staying with him. and second of all, you two need to learn how to bloody talk to each other. When you're in a relationship you should have respect and talk to each other decently. Don't talk to each other with three "fucking"'s in a sentence, even if you're in a bad mood. It seems like such a small thing but if you don't have that respect and careful with words with each other you'll be surprised how hurt you are by those things and don't even realize it, and it teaches you to form habits of talking harshly with each other. all that will make for a really crappy relationship. it doesn't matter who's pissed or why you shouldn't talk like that, or make cheap shots by calling you the name of his ex, etc. and the fact you're on here ranting calling him a ass, asshole, hate him, etc. It shows your relationship is really nothing, it's quite sad actually you can talk about him like that... so that proves without him, you'd be okay.. it should break your heart and be unable to call the person you love those things, even if you're mad. It seems to me like you both just think of yourselves... Yes you do a lot for him, but still. and he isn't treating you well, but you blew up over nothing because of not having a shower (though many things im sure put you in that mood) so...overall, not a healthy relationship... and I don't see it bettering unless you really put work into it, but i doubt it. things like this and this lack of respect and anger towards each other is really hard to overcome and forget and be fine.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

I would never insult my girlfriend like that. You do a lot for him, and it's not fair that he treats you wrong.

You are a wonderful girl and don't you forget it!

Um I've never had an ex so idk wtf youre talking about


But yeah... We resolved this and we can't live without each other... Would a mod mind closing or deleting this? <3 Thanks

the emptiness will haunt you

Mm i went back and looked and it was he liked her while you were staying with, but didn't cheat. my bad.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3