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You need to tell your current bf this, what you just told us. Sit down have a serious conversation and tell him how it's not working with him always flipping on you, etc. and that it needs to be seriously worked on or the relationship isn't going to work.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

Hey @pretzel99,

Well, this is quite a tricky situation. Relationships are great when they're full of joy and smiles, but they sometimes have dark sides, like everything. However, what is a relationship if you're only there for the good times, and give up on the bad ones? You should work to improve it. So far, you and him have tried this and failed multiple times, yes? Well, now you need to decide where to draw the line and label it "enough". Talk to your boyfriend about this.

Is it worth it to try again? That's up to you to decide, not us. You say you're no longer sexually attracted to him. Although this may be because the heat in the relationship is gone, in can also be a phase. The human mind is far too complicated to draw conclusions.
My advice is to try to make the relationship work, but if it ends again, just stay single for a while.

Take your time to think and remain single, clear your head. Stay away from romance and maybe then you'll know what to do. I also recommend staying away from trying anything with your crush, even if you become single again. That would only make things more complicated, and bring more elements to the dilemma you're already facing.

"If I do good, people might accuse me of selfish, ulterior motives, but I will still do it. Because I believe no one is malicious, not in their core, in their raw being.
The best in them is clouded by sorrows and fears, take those away and you'll bring out the brightest of lights in them.
Because no one can be happy without being kind, without giving ourselves to another, and we all love to give ourselves, it is our true nature.
That is why, even if I might get disappointed, I'll always give the best I've got. A single candle can light a thousand others and still burn." - Skezra

thanks this really helped. i think i will have a serious conversation with him about us working on this together. Thank you so much

That's great, but just make sure you let him know it is coming to the breaking point of possibly leaving, the poor guy should at least know instead of just someday "I'm leaving you" when all along he thought yous would get married, etc. So just talk with him and I bet when he sees the seriousness of it, he'll try to change. and like above said, get away from the crush. it's just a crush don't ruin your four year relationship on it.

Oh and Ive had the lack of sexual appeal with my ex when I was going to break up with him, the weeks before. I think it's just basically aggravation/annoyed/irritated by them that makes you not want it. I was very much that way with my ex, very short, pissy, etc.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3