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This is kind of an update to one of my previous threads about a month ago (if you saw it)

Ive never had a girlfriend. Im 17 and never talked to girls unless they talked to me because I was too shy. But, if I know them good im not shy at all. So, its more like a fear of rejection from people I dont know. Anyways, Ive got it bad for this beautiful girl in one of my classes. She is in my first period class and sits at the table next to me. She never talks to me in class, but if I see her in the halls or in another class (gotta put my guitar somewhere) she perks up and gets excited to see me. I never know what to say to her because shes so real and nice, and I pretty much dream of talking to her the next day when I fall asleep. In the last week or two im at the point where I really want to talk to her, but the timing is never right (bells can be a killer) and Im never able to muster up the courage to say "You're very pretty today" and am stuck at (when she says hi to me) "Oh, hey..."

Im getting pretty pissed at myself for not having the balls to talk to her, and its really bothering me. Anyone got any advice?
Its like "Ive finally got this far. Shit... now what?"

First, make sure you are okay with getting in a relationship when she very well could be moving in a year for college... so make sure you're all cool with that.

And then just try and talk to her, so you get embarrassed and blush and stumble and crap, so? she'll think that's adorable and you'll get her attention. Plus, it shows us girls that it's taking a lot for you to talk to us, like us, etc. (: Just tell her she's pretty. make sure you say pretty or beautiful, nothing else and it won't seem sweet.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

Its just, I want to do all that, but I think shell think im weird because Im kind of stand-offish and itll be weird if I just start trying to get to know her out of nowhere.

Howdy friend! I'm in pretty much the same boat. just say something like "hey, you look nice today." I was always shy too but you'll get over it. don't think about too much. Besides, all your doing is giving a compliment and girls like compliments. Just don't come off creepy. I learned that the hard way *Rubs face wincing in memory*

Lol....

What you don't realize is though, she's already noticed you so it's not like your some stranger, so you being stand off and no confidence and crap and saying something sweet like that will IMPRESS her, not creep her out most likely

And Daniel, Don't say nice, hot, sexy, stunning, gorgeous. Do pretty or beautiful first, those are more sweet, they will make her feel special rather then desired in a wow your damn attractive way. We want to feel attractive but not like that right off the base from someone who we might romantically be with.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

Ill add that you have a crush on this girl. Now crushes tend to mess with out own critical thinking as men. (Damn you women...) So you could be over thinking things, and just not seeing things in plain sight. What im trying to say is its a touchy situation. Now one thing you can do that would make you look like a creeper, a sex hungry boy, or something else. Is make a conversation.

Getting to know her out of know her is the safest way to figure out if a girl likes you. It shows you have SOME self control and arent only talking to her cuse YOU THINK SHE IS BEAUTIFUL (that could be to forward)
So you should set a goal for yourself. Something along the lines as a simple QUESTION. It shouldnt be a question that can be answered with a Yes or no. So maybe like what time it is, or have i seen you somewhere else, then give some random explination IF she says no.
Then try your best to go on from there.

Im telling you, conversation is THE way to figure out if a girl likes you or not. It makes you seem like you have balls, if she likes you. Or it shows you arent a creeper if she doesnt like you.

Odds are tho dude she is at least interested, so get in the game and TALK TO HER.

good luck! ;D

Forgive the crappy grammar!
"The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. " - Confucius
"The guy in the back always has something to say"

Why does every guy in the world think that all woman love confidence and we feed off it...?

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

I think thats because alot of guy's are like that. we get a compliment and we get all cocky and feed off of it like bragging to our friends saying crap like "she wants me."

All that you guys say makes sense to me, but shes pretty quiet like me too, so its hard to even say more than just hi, without it seeming awkward. I dont know anything about her, I only have a class with her, dont have her lunch etc. She gets to school right before class so I cant hit her up before school, and I cant wait for her in the afternoon as my bus leaves about 3 minutes after the bell. Its like, I cant really get to know her any better because we're only in one class together, and she seems pretty down in the morning. But when I see her on my way to 4th period, im usually in a rush and dont have time to talk. Fuck, I am in a tiff...

I guess it feeds guys' egos but why the hell would you act out going, confident, etc when you're not? girls who are not outgoing, not confident, etc, aren't going to want a happy go lucking confident no worries type guy most of the time. that goes for anyone though, for example a person with a lot of problems and depression and that isn't going to want someone who's super bubbly and happy all the time. Act like yourself so you get a girl like yourself so you can have a good relationship, Sure, you can't be twins.. but like you're saying with this girl who's shy, she's not going to want a guy who's the life of the party where she'd feel like a third wheel. So, just be yourself, let yourself blush, let yourself stumble, she'll like that because it shows she's not the only one who has trouble talking to a person they like, that you're not all full of yourself and confident and she can't even work up saying hi. Just, try your damn hardest to tell her she looked pretty today, stumble, mess up, blush, who cares...? she's shy she's going to think that's frickin adorable and admire you were able to say it even with how goofy it may have come out. I say, just when you get a moment, tell her, if it impresses you soon after I'm sure she'll be working harder to talk/give a number something.


Of course, this is my opinion. Doesn't go/work for all so take it or leave it, I'm just saying it since I'm a reserved laid back girl who isn't outgoing or confident

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3