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I met this girl 7 months ago on this website Myyearbook. She's the most amazing thing in the world and I've been so happy with her. Yes, at times we fight and at times I feel like crap because she lives in Texas and I live in Virgina. We both feel the same and we tell each other that we're in love with each other. I really do feel that way. She makes me happy, last night she even called me cuz she was sad and i helped her feel better. that's how relationships should work shouldn't it? I'm a junior and she's a freshmen we usually talk on the phone every night. I don't plan on going to college right after school so I told her I'd try and live in Texas in her area so i could be with her and maybe somehow I could work everything out and we could be together. I've never felt anything like this, but the long distance part makes me have doubts. I can talk to her and be completely open with her about everything and anything...what do you guys think? can it still work out even if we're so far away from each other?

Caution is the best answer. My sister had the same issue. And then after a year when she finally met the guy they ended up hating each others guts. So, I would just proceed with lots of caution.

Hey Dominic,

I think I may be able to provide you with the advice you need since I'm currently in a long-distance relationship with @LaurenTheNerd; we've already had to overcome plenty of obstacles and we've both had our doubts, so maybe my experience will be of some use here.

Okay, so long-distance relationships can be difficult. You need to be extra trusting, you need to be able to talk regularly, and you need to be able to tolerate the fact that you can't see each other as often as you'd like. The key factor with LDR's is communication, because without it you're not going anywhere. If you have solid communication with this girl, then as long as you care and want to be with one another then there is no reason why the relationship cannot work. Your relationship in particular must be very difficult due to you both living in different states, so I must ask; have you both actually met each-other?

Just keep it up and see how it goes; there's no harm in trying.

no, we've never met. we planned on it during summer but it never happened. im just hoping for the best:/

"Love knows no distance" stealing my favourite quote I see haha kidding.

But yeah, check this thread - Long Distance Relationships.

Also I've been in an LDR for 18months, it's so difficult but you can get through it. Key things; communication and trust. Don't be down because of the distance, I know it's an early stage for you but with me, what gets me through it, is that I love Joe.. incredible amounts. Forget the distance and concentrate on your feelings. There will be many obstacles.. but you'll get through them with the right help.

If you need more advice then just pm me.

Need any 1-1 help? PM me and I'll get back to you ASAP.

As another person has said, communication is key. I believe that any long distance relationship can work, but it takes a lot of communication, trust, and honesty to be in one. It's hard, harder than most since you two can't see each other. People do it all the time though and make it out in the end. Take soldiers with wives or girlfriends at home for example, they do it as well. If you can make it through, then you are a lot stronger than most. If you're having doubts, express that with her. I personally believe that long distance relationships should be for a more older generation, just because you're missing out on a lot when you're younger that you might want back if it doesn't work out. Although, I'm not trying to be negative but you asked for opinions, so I'm giving you my full opinion on this from both view points. I hope you don't take what I say to heart, because if you do in fact love her and she loves you, then it very well could work and you'll both have a happy ending together. Good luck (and I mean that!).

So, if i was you, I wouldn't do that. I know... love is love, but relationship while you can't meet is so difficult. I've got friend which she's a smillar situation. She met he despide of he leaves far, however while he comes out she feels awfully.
I don't tell that you shouldn't do it. You'll do, what you want, but i tell you that, because you have to know other hand this situation.
I hope you will be happy. I wish you that!

thanks everyone, everyone views this differnetlY

The answer to your question is simple.. Yes, it can still work out if you're both willing to make it work. I have been in a long distance relationship for almost two years and I am completely happy with it. Trust, communicate and be honest with each other. We didn't meet until we were a year into our relationship and it was the BEST day of my life. It made everything that much more worthwhile and now we've been trying to make plans to see each other constantly when we have time. I think you should make a trip out there to see her and see where that takes you.

As for moving out to be with her even though you're not planning on going to college, think about that carefully. I'm not sure how expensive it is out there, but in California, it's really expensive to get an apartment if you don't have a job more than minimum wage. Don't rush into living with each other immediately, it could be bad for the relationship to go from hardly ever seeing each other to seeing each other every day. Try seeing her once a month for awhile, once every other week for awhile, once a week for awhile and see how it works out.

Good luck.