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Ok so i posted this question before on the forums and I thought my problem was solved, but now things just became sooooo confusing. Below is my story and original long question from my previous post. Below that post is what currently happned. Thx everyone for your help!
Ok so this is a long story and I’m sorry about that, but here I go. I have known this girl since 3rd grade. We were friends through 8th grade. (Not like best friends, but we were always friendly and I was over her house a couple of times). Now at the end of 8th grade I developed a crush on her and I told her at the end of the year I thought she was pretty, but nothing every really happened after that. She still liked me as a friend and I figured that’s only what she saw in me. When I started my freshmen year in hs I only saw her a couple of times (once at her house) because we go to different schools. I tried to move on because I figured my chances were up, but I couldn't. I don't like the girls in my school (they are really nice, but not my type) and my mind always kept wandering back to her. I found that I really am in love with her.
Now, my brother and her sister are Friends and I have seen this girl since freshmen year (Im a Jr) because of my brother and her sister getting together. I even tried inviting her over from time to time, just to hang out nothing special, but it never works out. She is always busy. Ironically I only see her when my brother has her sister over.( Don't get me wrong this past summer she came over my house numerous times when her sister was picked up, but it never worked out that she could come over to hang out.) She was always friendly to me and never ignored me in anyway.
Here is where it all begins. I never asked her out nor told her I liked her(I think she knows though) because I felt it would be weird to ask her since I only see her from time to time and we go to different schools. Most of all want to be her friend and I don't want her to think I am only after her just so she will date me. I didn't want to ruin our friendship and that's why I have never been really pushy around her nor do I text her or Facebook chat her, because I don't want to give her that impression. But this august I just found out that my one friend texted her or Facebook chatted her about me liking her.
Now, I got upset because I didn't want her to think that I put my friend up to this and I don't want her to think that he is asking her out for me. I didn’t even know it happened. I waited weeks and weeks to tell her that, if she came by when my brother had her sister over. And this is the two scenarios that would happened; One, I would see her, but everyone would be around (family) and so I couldn't ask her about the message. Or, two I never saw her.
So a week ago I sent her a message on Facebook explaining all this. I told her I didn't want to do this on Facebook and how I had no clue that my friend told her that I liked her. I told her most of all want to be her friend and I even said that I like her, but I said I only wanted to tell her much much later when she got to know the more confident High School version of me(instead of the 8th grader she knew). I told her everything I am telling you guys and it was a long message, I even said sorry for it. Most of all I said I would never try to make her feel awkward by asking her out and I still want to be her friend.
So I waited a week for a reply and nothing. One night I saw she was on Facebook and I sent her an IM. I kept it very short. I said "I hope my message did not cause you any trouble and are we still friends?" No response, then I waited like 10 minutes and said "u there?". No response. I waited another 10min and I finally said something like "maybe ur not there, if you are i gues i embarrassed you, sorry about that. I hope i didnt ruin anything. good night." and I logged off. She was definitely on and doing things, but she ignored me. The next day I got no response. I never asked her out in my first message and I was very nice about it. I didn’t come off to strong in the old message, I only wanted to let her know that I wasn't a part of what my friend did. She was always friendly to me, but what happened now? I know in the past she has kinda gotten embarrassed when certain guys ask her out, but yet at the same time she has been asked out by soooooo many guys. In some ways I think she likes the attention, buy why ignore me? There is a lot more, but hope anyone (preferably girls) could tell me what’s going on. Thanks for reading all this. I wish I knew why she was doing this, I even dont really care about being her bf anymore, I just want a friend. Thanks again. Wrote this in a hurry srrry about grammar and spelling.
Now back to today. Ok, so I just found out that the same girl recently posted on her FB that she needs to take the "bad" people out of her life and inderectly said that she only wants people who car about her in her life. I always knew she had some tough times at HS and didnt really like it, but i dont get it. If she is having a tough time and wants to get rid of people who use her and how she wants to get past her mistakes in HS, why didnt she acknowledge me and my message? was it that embarrasing? weird thing is that when I talk to my mom she says that this girl is nice to her and my brother when they see her. Maybey there is something I dont know about her that will conclude why she is doing this, but other than that idk. Now, I havent seen her in a while and I just dont get it. is she ever going to talk to me agian? why doesnt she want me as her friend. Please help. thx.

hi. i'm not really good in this but i think i've been in the same situation. but i'm that girl in your story. i've done the same thing when i got to know that my best friend had a crush on me. i felt really uncomfortable with what was happening and i guess maybe she felt the same way. let her do what ever she wants. leave her alone to cool her down. like me, she needs time to accept what's happening. i guess she wants you to be just a friend of hers. sorry to say that. wait for 3-4 months then she will be okay. don't rush to get her back even as your friend.

Hummm

I believe she will never get back to you. She probably doesnt even think about it, or remember it to a degree. You on the other hand are taking it very very seriously. So i would not be suprised if you never figure out what happened. The best thing to do is just drop it and never think or bring it up again if you can.
Really if you think about it, it was nothing. You where only fretting about a whole bunch of stuff someone else said. The only odd thing was when you started going about thinking it was a big deal!

My words of advice are to just drop it. If you have to interact with her, then do it without ever thinking of all this crap. Its just a bunch of nothing that is making everyones life much more difficult. Now if she knows you have feelings for her, she doesnt like you back. Otherwise she would of at least responded to you in some manner. Right now she is "scared" of you so to speak.

It also doesnt seem like you could enter her friend zone right now. At this moment you are very awkward with her so you shouldn't really try to be her friend for right now. Maybe in the far future. Anything past a friendship is pretty much hosed right about now.
Sorry dude but thats young love!

Forgive the crappy grammar!
"The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. " - Confucius
"The guy in the back always has something to say"

Ok thanks guys! I appreciate it, but how do I make things less awkward with her. You see, my brother and her sister are hanging out more and more and eventually I will see her. I am going to see her alot this year because of the way things are. She might even drive my brother to school later in the year, so what do I do when I see her? I am good with talking to girls in general, but my fear with her is that she thinks I am a creep or weird or something. I dont want that to happen. I am going to be as casual as possible, but I dont want to lose her as a friend. Is it to late?
Also Winter Star Snowy if you dont mind me asking, did you ever (not date), but stay friends with the friend who liked you?

yeah.. i still befriend with them after 5-6 months. i feel quite bad about it. we try to forget about what was happening between us. it feels weird to make friend with them after all things happened.