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i've been with my boyfriend for about 15 months now. i love him to death. we were best friends, almost like siblings (not to be creepy), but things changed and we ended up together. i know he loves me and i know i love him, but he's ... changing.

i know, i am young and reckless and stupid and whatever else, but we had sex in july. it was the first time for both of us. we'd been together for over a year. i trusted him and loved him enough to do so. if i didn't, i definitely wouldn't have.

he has issues. he knows he does and he can't fix them. he is easily paranoid because he used to live with his mother who was an alcoholic and lied to him all his life, and his father is an asshole who verbally, physically, and emotionally abuses him on purpose. now, my boyfriend has said he NEVER wants to be like him, but the sad part is . . . he's turning into him.

as far as i know. i'm not SURE if he is or not, but from what people tell me, he definitely is. he's changed a lot since the first time i met him, and i used to think he changed because of all the crap he had to suddenly put up with from being taken from his mother. but now i'm thinking he's not changed like that; he's changed into his dad.

the reasons i think he's acting like his dad? when he's not being sweet to me, he's being a complete jerk. he's calling me a whore because i'm no longer a virgin, and it hurts like hell when he says that because i lost it to HIM willingly. i know he's joking and i've told him that it pisses me off, but he continues to do it. and he's suddenly started being a bully. we have a mutual friend that is bisexual, and so he stuck his tongue out and he goes, "i bet you wanna do that to meghan." i wanted to punch him in the face when i heard he did that, but when i confronted him, he told me it didnt happen like that at all. and also, he's making up stuff. like apparently i ignore him, i never talk to him, and i push him. i pushed him because he was clinging to my arm and i was pissed the fuck off about the bisexual thing. and i talk to him as much as possible. and i dont fucking ignore him, either, he ignores me.

his dad is immature. my boyfriend is not being abusive, and i know he wouldnt coss he isn't his dad, but he's making me angry and i don't know what to do or say that could explain to him my standpoint on things. he's stubborn and again, he's paranoid, which makes things x369874 worse because if i bring something up he automatically thinks i'm breaking up with him.

we are in love. we really are. i am in love with him, and he's whipped. sometimes. i just dont know what to say to him to make him realize any of it either. i know it almost seems like i have to get him to myself for a long period of time and discuss things over, because he doesnt freak out as bad if it's in person, but we're both so busy that i don't know where i could fit the time. /:

i don't know what i'm asking or what i'm saying. i don't know what to do. he's changed, and he's changed for the worst. he was never like this before. and it's not that he's a jerk all the time either - he's the sweetest thing ever when it's just me and him. so i don't know.

thanks so much if you read all that . . . :333 <3

any suggestions? anything at all?

well megen <if thats how you spell it>

1. it is obvious you love him

2. have you tried talking to him about it?

3. have you considered maybe he is not changing but you are? <maturity wise>

4. has he hurt you?

5. if you said yes to number 4 get out while you can

6. if you said no to number four my best guess is too talk to him about it

now be fore warned that this is like my first attempt at giving advice intentionally so look thru the list and get back to me k?

i appreciate all messages and pm's so if u want to talk just message me!!!!