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Around this time last year I had a girlfriend. I really really really liked her, we were together three months, we had a lovely relationship but then I broke up with her because I was rubbish at maintaining relationships for extended periods of time without getting stressed.

We vowed to stay good friends and all was well. Of course, the whole staying good friends didn't happen and we drifted apart. Everything's still civil when we talk, but we don't... talk anymore.

Anyway, she got a boyfriend, they were together a while and a lot of the time I used to think about getting good friends with her again 'cause I missed her, but was a bit nervous about the fact she had a boyfriend and that I could mess up or something, I don't know, so I never tried very hard ><

I kept an eye on her blog, (I noticed an answer to "would you ever consider getting back with your ex?" was "If I was single and she liked me") and I've discovered she has broken up with her boyfriend.

Now. I really quite miss her. I don't know what to do. I feel bad about only considering talking to her now she's single, but I don't think I could have done so if she weren't. Should I consider talking to her again, merely to rekindle a friendship if anything? Also, where would I start? How would I let her know it wasn't just me trying to get back with her?

Urgh. Advice would be granddddd!

If I haven't explained the situation clearly enough, just let me know ><

Well, you'll have to really make it clear you just want friendship otherwise she'll get the wrong idea.
I don't see why you can't just send her a friendly message sometime and ask if she wants to hang out? I'm sure she'll be pleased if you ended it on good terms

To be honest, though, part of me would love it if we got back together again, but I wouldn't want her to think that it's a case of "oh, you're single! I'll start talking to you again!" But I don't think I could have started talking to her again comfortably when she was in a relationship if that makes sense?

I just kind of... miss her as a friend because that's mainly what we had in our relationship, it was a really close friendship.

I agree with Lauren. If you are interested in getting back together with her (which I think was solely emotion based, me thinks), you should. however, if you don't you need to make it clear that you only want to stay as friends.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Let her know your intentions so she doesn't get the wrong idea. Don't be ambiguous or sneak it into the conversation. It seems lik she wouldn't have a problem with being closer to you again.