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ok this chick transferd to my school this year everyone instantly liked her other than me. i've never been good with girls but we did make some small talk and found out we had a lot in commin. she fb chated me we talked and the more i got to know her the more i liked her and the more we talked. she told me we should study together sometime i'm thinking this chick digs me. but 2 days later she's going out with someone else at this point i'm thinking wtf. that weekend her fb says single but his doesen't so idk what the deal is. the next week we have a half day she asks if i want to hang out i say yes but i still don't know what the deal is with her and this other dude. we hang out and have a great time she says that they're broken up beacuse she only knew him a few weeks. we keep talking she asks me if i like going to down town. i say yes when i can get a ride (i have no car) she says we should go together i say i would love to and i'm free whenever she is. homecomming is soon but i think she's going with someone else so i don't ask it turns out she is. this guy she's going with is a total douche and has no respect for any women and is constintly trying to touch her even though she says they're just friends it still bugs me to see them together there. the next week we have a half day i ask if she wants to hang we do. we have a great time exploring the woods behind my school. after that i notice she never texts me first and is taking longer to respond or not responding at all. i also notice she starts going offline on fb i don't have much self confidence so i worry it's beacuse of me. i send her a text asking if i'm a boring texter she says no she was just busy. the next week she starts texting me first more and responding faster. i ask her what she's doing this weekend she says nothing i ask if she wants to hangout downtown she says yes. then the next day i'm going to the bathroom at school and i see her in front of me then i see she's crying i catch up and ask what's wrong she says that people know things about her she didn't want them to know. i ask if she needs any thing she says she's fine and then gives me a hug it was diffrent than all the other hugs it felt more special. i felt like we relly conected then. i told her if she ever wanted to talk i'm here. now i was very exited for saturday i text her thursday asking if she's still can hang she says no she's 17 and got busted for weed a month ago and she said her dad doesen't trust her downtown alone i ask if she can hang at all she says idk. so last night i text asking if she can hang at all she says no and when i try and set a later date she doesen't respond. we haven't talked today.

So what should I do

Make friends with her, and when youre in a proper position, tell her your concerns about her boyfriend. Tell her that you think you can do better if she will would give you a chance. That might work.

no she's not going out with anyone

then get close to her, and make a move.

i feel like you're not reading this right

Probably, its 2:30, but with clocks set back its really 3:30...im damn tired

i don't really understand your story, i'm so sorry. but i think you should leave her alone for a minute. don't try to push her. set another date when she seems to be better. it's not easy to face the situation.

She is behaving in a very confusing way, she might be feeling like she's under pressure from you,, try not texting her so much, and give her some time to herself, if she just broke up with someone then she may not be ready for another relationship yet. Sometimes people just need some space to gather their thoughts

YES
I dont know how much you text her. But really just make sure she knows you will listen and are always ready to talk.

So when you see her in real life see if everything is OK. Just take things slow dude, if she has personal issues going on then DON'T FORCE her to do anything. Ill also advise you to NOT stay in the friend zone to long. So make sure your presence is one of someone that can be more than a friend ;D
GOOD LUCK!

Forgive the crappy grammar!
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Stop texting her so much about it. Wait about a month or so before you start asking her if you guys can hang out. For now just talk in school whenever you can. I'm sure you'll get with her soon enough from what I understand