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So, I dated this guy for a really long time, and he broke up with me. I don't know if guys are just more immature than girls are at this age? I'm very mature... I've been through a lot in my life... I'm not the average 13 year old. People think I'm at least 16. Anywhoo, I'm still in love with him. And I'm not talking the kind of 'love' that little kids (like... 6th grade & under) have... Well they don't know what love is. Y'all know what love is, right? Well if you do... Give me advice. Should I try to get back with this guy, or go for another guy I'm currently friends with benefits with? I don't like the friends with benefits idea... I like real relationships. But I have known both of them for the same amount of time, and I don't know what to do. They both are very close friends, so either way they'll still be in my life majorly. It's just too hard to handle myself. All of y'all... Tell me what you would do!

real relationships for the win

What kind of immature do you mean? physical? mental? What?

Honestly, we're still kids at this age. Who really can tell what love is? We all have different standards, and looking back from now when you have a spouse, you'll see that maybe your first love isn't love. Maybe it was, but it didn't work out for whatever reason.

and...friends with benefits? You're 13 kiddo... little young?

You sound very mature mentally having both a boyfriend and a friend with benefits, and thinking you're in love at the age of 13. He broke up with you, therefore, he does not want to be with you. Move on.

Just because you've gone through a lot doesn't mean that you can handle a relationship... I mean, friends with benefits? Come on now. I think you've been watching too much TV. You're better then that. You don't want to be tabbed a whore. So you basically broke up with the guy you "love", and now have a fwb? Hon, let me lay it down for you. I thought I was in love at 13 too, and then the girl decided that she wasn't and she hurt me for a long time. I think you need to be smart here and not date either of them until you get a firm grip on your "problems."

After rereading your post, no, I don't know what love is in a romantic sense.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

He broke up with me, quite a while ago too. And... I know I won't be 'tabbed' a whore. I go to a VERY small school, we all know each other. I'm trying to take y'all's advice... But to be honest you don't really know me & what kind of person I am. /:

@RedPanda98 I believe all of them are right... But it's up to you, and when you fuck up you will learn from you mistake... And even thou I go to a 4500 student high school I believe they will consider giving you a lable... Sorry for been harsh... Speaking because my best friend got that lable...

I think you should move onto some one else.. What I look at relationships in a light of, their hard work and you've gotta be able to handle it and know what the actual meaning of love is. I don't think no one really knows what it is since relationships are thrown around like a hot potato most of the time and then they end up dropping.. Trust me, I've hopped into things and learned from it though. and Friends With Benefits? Do you really think that is the best thing? I think you need to wait till the right person comes along that your gonna be with and actually love. Your still young and got all of the time in the world, you don't gotta feel you've gotta rush into things. Once you've become an adult, your gonna look at that kind of stuff in a different manner than you are right now.

Btw, redpanda, a friend with benefits is a more appropriate term for a fuck buddy. You're 13, my goodness...

Kid, with all due respect.

You're 13, you don't know what love is, you don't know what a real heartbreak is. You didn't really "loved" that other kid becuase you want to replace him really quickly and havea friend with benefits. Really, you're 13, concentrate in another things.