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But here I ago with another relationship/crush problem... totally confused and having mixed feelings on what to do here, so here goes:

Background (for those who need it to answer the question, skip for question):

I'm currently crushing on someone cute, I've known about her since sophomore year, but I recently just go to see more of her personality come out to me, since we now sit next to each other in one class. I always thought she was kind of cute, but ever since we started friendly talking, I think somewhere in the moment, I fell for her...
We talk regularly through class to each other, about random things, no flirting whatsoever. Sometimes the people in front of us get annoyed because we talk too much, but they take it out on her and ask her to stop talking so much (not in a mean way, but yeah). I get kind of bummed out when they do that, but I don't really do anything.. because I don't really wanna give anything away that might be obvious to her. Sometimes I'll walk her out of class, but rarely do I ever walk her to class. I don't know why I don't wait for her so we can walk out of class together everyday to be honest... I just feel like it'll be obvious that I'm into her, and she'll stop being herself (I have too many past experiences that left me a little heartbroken like that). I took a vow not to use facebook and texting to constantly talk to her, because of my past relationships not ending too well like that. I like to talk in person more. But recently I just felt like I had to at least use one of those if I wanted to get to know her more, and since she broke her phone (according to her), I occasionally talk to her on facebook. I really don't know any other way to get to know her better, because she's a very active person and has a lot of after-school activities, including a job. She's very focused on school, or so my friend told me. But she's sleepy a lot in class, crams stuff sometimes, etc, but I know that she wants to be focused. My friend told me that she "knows her too well to know that she doesn't want a boyfriend, and wants to wait until college." When she told me this, i told myself i should probably move on... but then I wondered if I should really trust one person's answer. I mean, things could change with her, and its impossible for a girl to not have at least ONE crush your high school year. She's too nice for me to really just stop talking to completely... she doesn't deserve it, but its the best way for me to move on from her. So now I'm in this middle-ground where I have no idea what to do.

Question:

I'm crushing on a girl who apparently doesn't want a boyfriend (according to only one source, it could be true or false) because she's focused on school/after-school/job. I only have one period with her, I don't walk her to class because I don't want to be obvious, but I occasionally walk her out. I feel like I should move on, and it's impossible to get to know her more. But at the same time, I want to try... if anybody knows that feeling of that "little spark of hope".

she doesn't have a phone (i actually tried getting her number from some friends, nobody had it, i also asked her, she said she broke it), and she occasionally goes on facebook. But I don't want to use facebook as a median to get to know her. I really don't know what to do from here, I'm getting mixed feelings, mixed emotions, confusion, etc. Part of me wants to move on, part of me wants to stay. Pretty much the brain/heart thing, if you know what I mean.

I can relate to your story.

If you want to know how she feels talk with her.

At the end it's all up to you.

Good luck.

Cutting her off completely should only be a last resort, cause you'll probably lose any possibility of friendship as well. try getting to know her better.

All I have to say is; TRY to make it slightly obvious that you're into her. Don't be afraid to walk her to class if she doesn't object and if you have the time. Don't be afraid to tell your other classmates to lay off when they tell her to stop talking. You never know, she might get the message and it could turn out that she might have a crush on you too. Or she might get the message and make it clear to you that she's not up for all the shenanigans and that's that.