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BACKHAND A HOE

@Syrian said it. It's something just apart of her personality, and you can't just up and change some one like that. But if she has trust issues then there is where the real problem arises. She is just going to have to realize on her own that you are a trustworthy guy, you can only do but so much. She's gonna have to take a step forward and stop looking at the negative side (e.g., thinking your gonna cheat, etc.) and start looking at the positive side.

There's nothing you can really do, she has to understand that it's totally correct to have friends of both genders even when you're not single. The problem here is not you, but her.
She has to trust you. Trust is the basis of any relationship. So,... yeah, I don't know what you could do, maybe tell her this? She has to understand. Otherwise, idk, let her be jealous I guess. She really has to get over it if she wants you.

Suddenly my eyes are open
Everything comes into focus, oh!
We are all illuminated,
Lights are shining on our faces
We are, we are blinded !
We are, we are blinded !

Its not as if I'd break up with her over this. Like, its not as big of a deal as I guess I made it out to be. My issue isn't to change her personality- its to somehow lessen it to make it comfortable for her. I find it absolutely adorable and I'm extremely flattered- I just don't want her to feel bad.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Then you have to do something to her in front of those girl friends, so she feels (even more) special. Something you'd only do to her, obviously. Like, take her hand in the middle of a conversation. Or look at her randomly, smile to her. Or give her a kiss on the forehead/cheek. Or simply look at her and wink. Girlfriends love when their boyfriend isn't afraid of being cute to them around friends, specially girls. Allows them to show off that 'they're the one girl', among all the other females, them being acquaintances, friends or best friends of yours, doesn't matter.

Suddenly my eyes are open
Everything comes into focus, oh!
We are all illuminated,
Lights are shining on our faces
We are, we are blinded !
We are, we are blinded !

I think you just need to persist with reassurance. Just keep telling her that you're only interested in her and if you talk to a girl you used to date and your girlfriend is there then make sure to hold her hand or to wrap your arm around her waist or at least in some way, shape or form, comfort her that you're still focused on her.

Being a girl myself, I understand these feelings and it usually isn't you that she doesn't trust. She probably knows full well you'd never hurt her like that but honestly girls can be bitches and to other girls it doesn't matter if you have a girlfriend. She probably knows this and just worries that they might try something.
There's also self esteem issues; she might be worried that you'll see other girls to be better than she is and is scared that it is beyond her power if you meet a "better" girl in her opinion. Just keep reassuring the longer you stay with her the more it might fade.

However, as others have said it might just be part of her personality and so always feels threatened by them no matter what. Again, I'd recommend to just keep reassuring her whether it be physically or verbally. She just wants to be sure that you're definitely interested in just her.

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also agree with @Pandemonium This would help alot :3