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My girlfriend is extremely jealous of pretty much every girl I have ever dated that I still talk to, and the majority of my friends that are girls that she considers "competition". She hasn't told me not to talk to them, but she has told me multiple times that it bothers me. I have repeatedly told her that I really like her and that there is no competition (and meant it). How do I get her to stop being so jealous?

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Honestly Jared, the only thing you can do is stop talking to them.

Besides, do u reallly wanna keep talking to Jessie? She seems a bit stalkerish

Its not just Jessie, mate. its all of them. And you think I should just... succumb?

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Talk to her first:

Tell her that:

1. Her doubting of your fidelity is ridiculous and if she really knew you then she would know that you're not a user or a cheater.
2. These girls are friends, not lovers. You have no romantic attachment to them at all. they're just friends, and you can't outright ditch them. If anything you can compromise and agree that you'll talk to them less, but that you can't outright ignore them.

I did all of the above.

@DeepDistress: I'm being anything but harsh. I have been extremely nice to her because she's a little... delicate. Its just something I want to quash before we get more serious.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

telling her the first suggestion won't work...

You can't just freaking tell someone with that personality to shut up and they're being ridiculous.. That's not fair and it's hurtful, she's not being overly jealous so you have no right nor reason to be that harsh to her when it's HER personality..

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

I think that's good. Also, keep in mind going to the "next levels" if you do it with someone already unstable.. she's going to become WAY more dependent, attached, possessive of you. So if you go to a higher level make sure it's for REAL.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

Oh no, I know. Trust me.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

I guess I'm too frank for delicate people :3

I'm afraid you can't do anything about that, mate! lol. It's a part of her personality, so you can't simply just make or oblige her to stop being jealous! When you started dating her, you should have thought of this since you aren't really fine with it.

It's really the time for humanity to take a dump.