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So I've just started talking to this guy online - he's so sweet and everything I've ever wanted in a guy, but he lives in the States and I live in England. I told him that I like him but I only wanted to be friends as it couldn't work. He said it could, if we tried hard enough!

It's been playing on my mind all day but I just don't know. He said he'll fly me over there and everything (don't worry, I'll obviously get A LOT of proof of identity before I do anything like that) and we could talk over here obviously, but I'm six hours ahead of him.

Truthfully, if we really wanted it to, could we make it work do you think? Or do you think I'm wishfully thinking as he's just everything I want in a guy?

We're both over sixteen by the way.

No.

If you want to give it a go, give it a go. But remember, while he may seem like your "perfect guy", he can act one way online, and one way in real life. So I wouldn't get to the point where you are surprised that, when you eventually meet up, its a surprise personality.

If you do want to commit, you'll need to trust him, because 6 hours, an ocean, and somewhat different cultures are in play and can oftentimes lead to distrust. Before you act rashly, just weigh the pros and cons wisely.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

I'm currently in a long distance relationship and I'm so glad I went for it because it has worked out so well. Difference is that we only live an hour away. Overseas, to me, seems almost impossible. If you're over 16, I'm assuming you're both adults or? If you're not able to see each other regularly, that'll put strain on the friend/relationship. I think you need to think this through and think about how easily this can work.

Truthfully it probably will not work since you are overseas. I tried being in a relationship like that and honestly it was a disaster. But if you are both willing to try and make it work it might work. it all depends on how hard you're willing to work for it.

You have a one in a million shot .... but hey that's better than winning the lotto and people try winning that all the time so it's up to you if you wanna try to make it work or not

If you really, really, honestly love him & you trust him 100% then there is no harm in trying. If you do just remember it will be hard and keep up to date with him, Skypeing and stuff like that would be good. If you don't love him that much or don't trust him then no. Not fair on either of you and if you don't trust him, you may be right, he could easily date someone in real life without you knowing. Talk more about it to each other and make sure it's what you both want to do, don't rush in to anything!

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If it doesn't it doesn't, but at least you gave it a shot. If you're both around 18 then you can fly and etc. If you were 13 it's be impossible but your older so it could. Depends on how much you like each other, how hard you try, etc. if your personalities are positive and fun then you'll do better vs someone who txts very boringly. Animated txt with smilies and that is the trick.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

Online relationship aren't really practical, as long as they do not improve to otherwise. You might meet too many guys in your real life, and have many practical chances of successful relationships ahead of you, are you going to skip them for a relationship that isn't 100% realistic?!
I don't want to cut down the hope on online relationships, but I'd say that I do not recommend them for those who aren't adult and resonsible enough to fly to each other!

It's really the time for humanity to take a dump.

You should give it a go, if you don't then you'll always wonder if it could've worked out etc. Living in different countries could be difficult but as you're both 16+ it makes it easier. Good luck!