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LadyGray · 22-11-11, 04:25 PM

Not so good things have been going on for me, but the main issue is my boyfriend again

He's staying in a cabin thats four hours away, for two months, starting in less than two weeks.

he doesn't have much going on in his life right now and hes got a lot of ambitions, without too much detail, he wants a change of scenery to clear his mind.

he's going to live in his grandpas cabin lol, for two months, probably more if he finds work up there. its a four hour drive, I don't drive. I'm excited for him and want him to get a little more self peace, I understand, but it isn't easy on me. I've tried long distance before, I cant do that again.

I know it may only be for two months but I already have been dealing with bad anxiety attacks lately, all sorts of terrible things run through my mind and for this to be added its almost too much.

He's assured me, the last thing he thinks about is breaking up and even if hes gone for a season he wants to be with me, and all the fuzzy heart nonsense. I also plan on staying in the cabin with him for a week or two, so it helps.

I guess it may also be good to get time away, I can try to focus on my own life since he consumes a third of it, but thats kind of how I think it should be when you love someone.

I want to have faith in him and us, I just base everything off of what I've had before. But I know hes not a negative person, we counterbalance each other.

how would you feel in this situation? and what things could I do to stop thinking so negatively? I've considered things like xanax, and am still looking for anti anxiety meds I could try without prescription.

but maybe time with my friends wouldn't be so bad either

DeepDistress · 22-11-11, 04:39 PM

Hmm considering hes in a cabin in the middle of no where with no chicks around, if he loves you i think you're fine. It's gonna be hard but your relationship will grow hopefully.

solitude · 22-11-11, 04:48 PM

if youre having panic attacks because of it i'd say you need to look a bit within honey

You shouldnt need someone like that and should be able to allow them their own space to do their thing

LadyGray · 22-11-11, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by UKFunkychick

if youre having panic attacks because of it i'd say you need to look a bit within honey

You shouldnt need someone like that and should be able to allow them their own space to do their thing

I agree, my rationality and my emotions are always at war.

solitude · 22-11-11, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyGray

I agree, my rationality and my emotions are always at war.

i didnt mean to be harsh btw

its hard to overcome emotions

Winter Star Snowy · 22-11-11, 07:36 PM

some times it's good to be far away. be strong!