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I love someone else

I don't know how to tell her though
I need help

There is not much to do here. The longer you prolong it, the harder it will be and the longer you will omit the truth.

Just tell her bluntly. Don't be harsh, but don't be soft. Just be honest.

"If I do good, people might accuse me of selfish, ulterior motives, but I will still do it. Because I believe no one is malicious, not in their core, in their raw being.
The best in them is clouded by sorrows and fears, take those away and you'll bring out the brightest of lights in them.
Because no one can be happy without being kind, without giving ourselves to another, and we all love to give ourselves, it is our true nature.
That is why, even if I might get disappointed, I'll always give the best I've got. A single candle can light a thousand others and still burn." - Skezra

I almost gasped when I saw your name was Kirk xD

You need to tell her, you'll hurt her more if you string her along and she finds out afterwards. Just remember to be considerate and try not to hurt her feelings by being angry with her or anything. Probably shouldn't mention that there's someone else either, that won't do her much good.

'It's not you, it's me'

Haha.

Don't do it over the phone, through Instant Messenger or on MySpace.. Don't lie about your reasons for wanting to break up. If she's too clingy and you need some space, or you've met someone else and you'd like to explore this new frontier, come right out and say so.Don't be brutally honest and don't insult her. Even if one of the reasons for the break-up is that she sucks in bed or your physical chemistry is lacking, do not tell her this outright. It is completely unnecessary.

Tell her. Like everyone said, you're just prolonging the pain. Don't beat around the bush, but don't be so harsh that she runs home crying.

I just hope you expect not to ever speak to her again without her violently cursing you out.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Just do it, if anything she'll appreciate the fact that you are upfront and honest about it.

As the others have said, just tell her honestly, but not too harshly.
There's no point waiting around, get it over with.

Michael~

I can see it now?

"sob, you're leaving me for someone else? Well, i appreciate how honest and upfront you are about it"

just tell her, it ins't going to be easy no matter how u do it.

I just meant it is better to be honest than to lie to both yourself and her and string things out, just resulting in more pain later, if I was the girl in this situation i'd rather he be honest about his true feelings.