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Basically, this girl that I've been trying to patch things up (for 5 months -___-') ...she always said things like

'Oh you don't care about anyone apart from yourself' - I can be cold sometimes, but that's just my personality, I'm not uncaring, I care a lot...more than I should sometimes.

'I'm at the bottom of the pile' - She was infact at the top for me, when my best friend had a go at her, I took her side, I always offer my help to her, she didn't accept it.

'You're a spineless cunt who doesn't make your own decisions' - Okay, sometimes she may have a point. I'm a person who just has to know other people's opinions on things. The time she usually comes up with, is in fact one of the times I went with the opposite of people's opinions.

These are the only things I can really explain right now, but yet she still claimed to 'like' me, or fancy me, what ever you want to call it.

For weeks I've been sceptical, I tried to tell her it's not working, and we should go our separate ways, but she comes out with some sob story (Which I sympathised with), but I spoke to someone. My form tutor. She recognised I've not been my usual self, and wondered what was up. So I told her, I told her everything.


She was like 'You know what Josh, sometimes you have to put yourself first, before other people'

So I broke it off with Kia.

As much as she hurts me, makes me angry. I really do like her, and I don't think I'm strong enough to stop everything with her.

At some point she will text me or something.
And I'll probably reply.
I don't want to (Or do I?)


I'm not a very ruthless person, how can I avoid the temptation?

Hm, seems like she's got you in the palm of her hand.

I don't think you should avoid temptation. If i was Kia, i'd rather have the truth, than that you didn't speak to me at all. I think you should tell Kia how you feel - or at least say that you don't want to stop it all, but you need a break. In some situations you just need to be strong, no matter what.

My opinion however is that I would not waste another minute on Kia if I was you. You just need someone to be supported by. Someone to make it feel less lonely - if you know what I mean? You're filling the loneliness with a wrong person.

Annike, you're completely right, I've told her how I really do like her and everything, just - It doesn't seem to be working, I mean, we argue a lot which is the only problem we have, but it's just draining me emotionally.

I'm just scared of being lonely again, and can sense I'll let her back in...

Whether or not you read this is your decision. I'm not sure why I'm messaging you, but I've just been thinking about everything all day. I know you hate my essays, but I'll try to condense it down for you. Everytime my phone goes off, to be honest. I hope it will be you, but them I get disappointed. Not that you should really text me or anything, considering.

Last week sometime, you said I'm spineless because I ask people's opinions to help me make choices about things. You know why I do it? Because times like now, I regret those decisions I make. I just wish we could fix everything in an instant, but we can't. I know you said I never seem to talk about your positives, there's two reasons for this. When we first met, you made me so confident, I could say anything I felt to you, and feel comfortable in doing so, now. I'm not confident at all, a mixture between our problems and other ones have done this. My biggest fear is your reaction, I've tested the waters with it subtlety, and I get mixed reactions, sometimes good, sometimes bad.

You said you never realise what you had until it's gone and you're right. I know you'll be thinking I'm weak for doing this, but the truth is, I am weak. Even though sometimes I do go on about how bad things can be between us. It's really nothing to how I have felt all day, maybe it'll pass in a while. I don't know.









I've sent that to her.