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Okay, so I've been talking to this guy who I met online for a few days now. He's really sweet and I would like to meet him after I get to know him a bit more (I am over sixteen and am sensible, would get him to prove his identity etc and possibly take a friend), but I'm not actually sure if he likes me.

We text every day - mostly in the evenings because of college. I love texting him but I wonder about a few things...

1) I always initiate the conversation. However, when we ARE talking he definitely seems eager to talk to me - asks questions back, uses loads of smileys etc. Is that a good sign and enough, or should be he starting the conversation sometimes, too?

2) Sometimes he takes a while to reply (an hour or so). He will always give me a reason, like he was doing something or whatever, and he does always reply eventually. I've been told this is a tactic that some guys use, do you think so, or is he just genuinely busy?

3) He says he's not "looking for a relationship" - he just wants to let it happen when it happens. I've been told this is the "standard procedure" to cover their backs if they don't like you in the end. True or false?

As you can tell, I'm a bit of a mess at the moment! I'm not very experienced with this whole thing (as you can probably tell, as well), so would really appreciate any answers and advice. I'm trying not to come off crazy-stalkerish, but I really like him and I'm starting to think about him a lot :3 Should I be, or am I just gonna end up hurt at the end of this?

Many thanks! xxxx

Meet him as a friend first and see how that goes, don't even think about a relationship till you get to know him in person.

Thanks for the reply. Wasn't intending to try and be anything else until we've met as friends - he could be a completely different guy in person!

Yeah, friends first is always the best policy

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

A "few days" "online".





He could be absolutely anyone. You need to make sure he is who he says he is before you even THINK about meeting up. Trust me, people on the internet can make themselves out to be whoever they like. I'd suggest talking to him for at least another few months just making sure this guy is legit.


No idea how you're supposed to tell if he likes you and there really isn't any need. If he likes you, he'll ask you out and you'll be sorted. Trying to find out beforehand will be obvious, just go with the flow and hope for the best.

Thanks. I wouldn't be dumb enough to meet up with someone after just a few days of speaking online and texting. I did actually say in my post that I'd be sensible and want a lot of proof of identity first, and I've also mentioned I know that he could be someone totally different - I am sensible!

Yeah I guess. I'm so silly though, I just let things play on my mind far too much and read into things way more than I should.

Thanks for the advice, anyways!

I know you probably wouldn't, I just feel better getting it out there

No worries, I understand. I know a lot of people who WOULD be that silly, so I do get why you said it.