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As the title says, im so sick of not knowing what to do when it comes to boys, i have so many problems im so over it... so i thought if i write it all out, (and it will be long) maybe some of you guys can help or give advice what ever i dont really know. So anyway i will start.

Starting at the begining of this year, i moved to a boarding school where there is 100 boys and 20 girls (yes this is actually important). When i started there i knew a few of the boys, one being my ex named Nathan. At the start of the year Nathan and i decided we would try to properly date and go out with each other. We went out for 4 months before i found out he hooked up with a girl at a party while being drunk while he was with me. We broke up but still had a thing going on kissing and such just harmless fun, both of us developed feelings for each other again but i told him it couldnt go any further as i didnt want to be hurt again. This carried on for about 2 months before i said no more. He wouldnt believe me and kept pushing me and pressuring me to do stuff i wasnt comfortable with. So to get rid of him I kissed another boy, Nick. now fast forward almost a whole year and i cant stop thinking about him, i feel like an idiot for dumping him, as he has moved on and went out with my best friend, i havent gotten over him like i thought i had and now i think i like him again, but we wont see each other as he has finished school, and He wont talk to me at all.

Nick and i had a short relationship, if you can even call it that and it last just over a week. Nathan starting hating Nick and vice versa so there were a few fights around school because of it, thankfully it died down after a while. Nick and i still talk but he wont stop pressuring me to send pictures or do stuff with him, which i wont do. Ok so after nick and i finished i had a break from boys for a little while before getting with another boy called Brett.

Brett is the one i asked advice on before, not sure if anyone read it but we were just friends with benefits that did everything but sex as we were both still virgins. After a few weeks of mucking about he completely ignored me and went out with another girl, he started romours and carried on quiet meanly so i stopped talking to him. This was about 4ish months ago. Then this week he said he was sorry for hurting me and wanted to go back to friends with benefits again. I said i forgave him but nothing is going to happen...

About 3 weeks ago at a party i hooked up with a guy called Jacob, he is so sweet and caring and i really like him. He just came out of a long relationship and i was his first hook up since breaking up with her. We talk 24/7 and are becoming quiet close but i have no idea what he wants. He asked me if i was talking to any other guys and i said yes one, and what about him and he said just me.... i dont know weather this is a bad thing or a good thing. i really like him but i dont know if he likes me and i dont know how or even if i should ask... He lives about 2hrs away but we are arranging to meet up and talk properly and he has his licence so will come and see me most weekends, but i dont know if i should.

And lastly just this week a guy confessed his love for me, he said he has had a crush on me most of the year, he is a really nice guy and we have been talking and texting non stop lately, He kissed me this week and while i really enjoyed it i didnt feel anything, if this makes sense, he is a really nice guy and i really like him but i think of him like a brother, but now he wants more? what should i do about him? He really cares about me and i used to like him but now ive met someone else i dont know weather i still like him?

In between all this i have had boys taking bets on who can get with me, because i have nice boobs, like wtf? I havent got with any of these guys because i really dont like them and i think they are just doing it for attention.

I know that this properly makes me sound bad, as this is a lot of boys for one 16year old to have in one year, but im still a virgin, and haven't slept with anyone and i set boundiares. I dont even know what im asking but i needed to write it down somewhere and figure that you guys are properly the best to see it.
Sorry its so long

I think you need to calm down with all these boys...quite a few names mentioned there.

Firstly, think about your feelings. Do you actually like any of these boys? Like, reallllly like them? Any of them that you feel you would want to be in a long term relationship with? If not, I'd stop right there. You don't want to get around boys like that in such short periods of time, it'll upset you if you get too attached to any of them emotionally and you don't want that kind of reputation.

Steer clear and really think about how you feel and about these guys. They're having a bet on who can get you because of your breast size? They all sound like a bad idea to me. I'd find someone else and just let it happen, don't go looking for any new guys just yet. Maybe you should make some time for some girlfriends and stay single for a little bit.

Another thing is, if I guy tries to kiss you and you don't feel that way for him, then don't let him. You can't continue things with people if you have no intention of making them last, it's unfair to the lad and to yourself.

100 boys? Surely there's better guys then these ones right? I'd suggest waiting until you find someone worth while before getting attached. I know this is easier said then done but you need to think about how bad some of these might be for you. There's too much "hooking up" going on with other people, is nobody you know loyal at all or even need time to get over someone else? This seems to me like it's all fueled up infatuation out of hand.

Jacob sounds relatively decent from what you've described and he's capable of long term relationships. Focus on him for a while and try not to get emotionally or physically involved with other guys, thats just confusing and once again, you don't want that reputation with boys. They could try and take advantage of the fact you just let anyone go ahead and kiss you.
Why not try being friends with Jacob? Show him you like and care for him and if things go well ,you might end up working out together. Just don't rush things and try and take it slowly. You may just end up as good friends, but that's good too, right?

I think you just need to push away the guys that aren't any good for you and to be a bit more selective.

Thanks Lauren, Thats pretty much what ive been telling myself.

Yep there are some really nice guys out of the 100 boys but they arent my type and are like brothers to me, or they are taken by some of my friends

Ok so ill have a chat with the last guy and tell him how i feel and how i dont think we will be anything but just mates...

Ill get rid of all the other guys, and not talk/text/fb them at all.

Get to know jacob a little better and see where it leads to.

Thanks

Your school life sounds like a fucking blast, and I'm being dead serious here.


Edit: Oh, and stick with this Jacob guy for a while longer and see where it goes. If it ends up the same as all the other guys then I think you just need a break from guys for a couple years.

my mind is blown

Why don't you just stop with guys.
Just have fun without them.
Surprisingly it's actually possible.

yeah, i agree with Lauren & MontrelRepresent. focus on Jacob and ignore other guys.