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So, I don't really know what to do. I started dating my boyfriend 2 months ago, and it all seemed well and then it got really serious really quickly. We were making plans of our futures together and stuff like that. He seems to be really in love with me. But I just don't know... We decided to go all the way about a week ago and I thought I was making a level-headed decision and that I wouldn't regret it, because sex means a lot to me and it's not just something you do to have fun. Anyways, a couple of days afterwards, I was absolutely positive that I wanted to marry him and have a whole future with him and all that lovesick crap that lovestruck and stupid teenage girls think, and now I don't know what the heck to think. He treats me so well. He's such a gentleman and kind to me, and he's never mistreated me in any way. My parents adore him. But I don't know if I'm in love with him or not. It goes on and off, really. One week I'm head over heels in love with him, and the next every time he tells me he loves me I pause. And I tell him I love him back because I have no idea what else to say. It makes me feel dirty and manipulative. Because I don't know if I'm going to have a future with him. It could be raging hormones, for God's sake. But I don't know what to do. I don't know whether to stay with him or break up with him. I just feel evil, holding back my actual thoughts. I should be happy. I have mostly everything I want with him. But I just don't feel the love. I've been thinking about this for weeks now, totally unsure of what to do. It seems like we've been dating forever. We've intertwined our lives together. We've made plans together. But I don't know if I want to keep this up. I need advice. I feel awful and confused. I don't know what to do. At one point I feel like I should do what I feel is best for myself, but I've never put my happiness before anyone else. I don't want to hurt him. I don't want to be that awful person that fooled him into thinking I loved him and then broke his heart. I just don't know.

Just take a step back and enjoy the relationship, don't worry about the future that's why it's not the present. If you marry, you marry, if you break up in a year from now, you break up a year from now. You can't tell the future in today. So just tell him you need to take a step back and relax, just slow down. You're getting overwhelmed.

From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.

Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3

true love comes naturally, and you have to doubt it. You're probably not in love. However, as long as your happy, don't cut it off, after all the purpose of a relationship is to be happy (when your young, anyways. As u get older u might look for a life partner) Just relax and take it day by day

if you have to ever ask yourself if you're in love, you're not in love....

I don't think you should worry about the future that you might have with him because in most relationships it doesn't last very long. I think you should just worry about whats going to happen now and take life step by step.

If you have to ask, you're not.

I think it's too soon to tell.

I have to admit you've moved along very quickly but I think you should stick with him. Take a break from all the serious heavy stuff and just enjoy each others company. One day you may well fall in love with him, you may not. Don't break it off if you're not sure, you might regret it.

ask yourself, do you really in love with him? or you just stay with him cause he's being really nice to you? love can't be forced. well, it's better to be with someone who loves you dearly than be with someone you love. relax, take your time to think.