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Hey guys, I am kinda stuck.

Right, I am friends with this girl at school, we have been friends for about 3 years now, and I have liked her (as in, wanting to date her) for about a year and a half. And she has had boyfriends, and she likes this other guy (kinda) at the minute, but I don't know whether I should tell her how I feel.

Because I don't want to say anything that would upset/offend her, but also I want to stay as friends if she says no.

I don't know what to do. Help?

Hmm. I would wait until she gets over this other guy, and then instantly make your move. You cannot allow yourself to be head over heels for someone while you are friends with them and enjoy their company. Go for it once she's over this guy.

But I cannot promise that you guys will remain friends.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

Timing bro ... it's all about timing. If you don't wait till she's over the guy all she is gonna do is reject you, and if she does, your relationship could get awkward. So instead wait till it's a time when you have nothing to lose and she might say yes and if she says no you can both laugh at it. That perfect timing will likely be a while ... it's like waiting for hungry seagulls in a fast food parking lot to be quiet, it will take a while but when it does u gotta pounce ;p

yeah, you should wait for her. don't tell her now cause you might lose her since she had a bf. it will make her feel awkward.

Her last BF was about 6 months ago.

And she is losing interest in this other guy, but I can't find a chance to talk to her alone... and I don't really want to ask her out on Facebook

What's wrong with doing it over Facebook? If it's your only opportunity to talk to her privately then go for it.

Send her this.

I think you should make sure that she's over this one guy and as soon as, try and get her alone. Maybe even make small flirtacious advances. You should try and hint what you want to tell her.
Maybe try hugging her or linking her arm/holding her hand briefly and tell her you'd like to talk to her about something? She might actually get the hint that way. If she's not interested she'll probably make it clear if it's not what she's after without telling you outright.

If you don't feel brave enough to do that then just make light hints? Compliment her and tell her she looks really pretty one day, she's bound to notice this.
Good luck! I'm sure that if you really mean a lot to her as a friend then she'll stick with you but if not, you're better off moving on.

Complimenting doesn't work :/ I tell her she looks great/her hair looks nice/etc. And then we get into an argument about it, because she says she hates it/doesn't think it looks good/etc.

Then it just ends with us agreeing that she is awesome, but her word is always far superior to mine.

Grow some fucking balls and do it. You're 16 for God's sake.

Josh, you may be a 'manly' man. But I am nervous about this sorta thing.

I am not a people person, I like to be by myself or in very small groups. I have just started to get over my social anxiety, so I am still not 100% happy with being with big crowds of people. And then people talking about me. And at the school I am forced to go to, if someone is in a relationship they are put in the spotlight, and I really don't like that.

So if your not gonna be constructive with your answers, please don't comment.


This forum site has got a lot of people who dedicate there time to help others, that is why I asked here. But you are still quite new so I guess you haven't had much time to see how awesome the people here are, and how supportive they are.