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Is it weird that I feel I could happily go my whole life being alone?

I could easily go my whole life without having a girlfriend/wife, being a virgin etc.
It just seems so much easier than having all those ties on your life. I will be able to do what i want, when i want.

I have a group of friends, we go out a few times a week like to the pub and stuff to have a couple of drinks, but i can't go out on a weekend when they do because of a phobia i have. which is when they meet girls etc.

I think whats happened is that i went through school without a girlfriend, then when my mates were getting them at parties etc, i couldnt go because of my phobia, and its sort of trained myself to not give a fuck. if you know what i mean.

In a very polite way... are u gay?

I'm proud of you. I'm somewhat like that, cept Im not afraid of girls, I only have a couple friends. More alone than you :/
Usually I'm sad because of it, but sometimes I'm glad that I'm alone because friends, especially girls = more things to worry about

It's not!
I'am 16 and I had like 3 or 4 girls (3 definitely, and 4th was short experience)....and now I wish I never had any girl!

So, take your time and be happy, and when you feeling ready go for it!

You should live your life the way that'll make you happy. So what if the typical lifestyle is a wife and kids, who cares? If you want to be alone then go for it and I hope happiness comes your way. It isn't weird at all. Actually, it's great you can be happy alone since some people spend their entire lives alone wishing they weren't. Do what you want.

Im not gay, women turn me on, and i am attracted to lots of women, and i do think "id love to shag her" (normal male thoughts) I just cant be assed to go out and find one lol.

I think it purely comes down to my lack of motivation in anything, i always put minimal effort in, just enough to get by. and a girl seems like a lot of effort.

And im not afriad of girls haha, i never said that, i think you misunderstood. When im out, i chat to girls, and i flirt with them and all that stuff...i just cant be arsed to meet up with them after lol

Also, another interesting thing about this is, i really want to have kids when im older...so to fulfil that dream ill have to find a woman lol

There are a lot of "bad" girls in the world that make your life hell. Trust me, I'm female and I know exactly how girls' brains operate. I'm not like that; I was born with the same mentality as my dad, and I can't stand women who gossip, cause rifts between friends, steal boyfriends, act stupid in school for popularity purposes and pretend as if their life is the most important thing in the world. Not to mention how severely they judge people, especially boys, for almost everything except their personality.

I've only dated once; he lasted a few months, but he broke up with me on Valentine's. And you know what? I'm glad he's gone! I'm 17 now and I haven't dated for 2 years but I don't feel bad about it. I'm going off to college next year and I'm hoping that in a completely new state and new environment, I'll find a worthwhile guy that won't make me feel as if I want to be a hermit for the rest of my life!

I think you just need to distance yourself from the high school girls and wait until people are more mature. So what if you haven't dated yet? It's not a contest! Dating is personal and it should be special, and you should date someone because you like them. You may not want a girlfriend/wife now, but maybe in the future you'll find a girl who you think is absolutely worth your time and effort. Just give it time!

Hey dude, I've never heard of such thing called " Phobia of watching friends with their girlfriends! " You probably used to be or still are shy around girls, it's probably why you have had none, and now when you see that all your friends have ones, you feel jealous, or more like left out, and that probably annoys you, and it why you aren't feeling like you want to go with them.

Not giving a fuck doesn't come from training dude, and that's completely fruitless. It comes from the conviction of your ability of having a very good and happy life, and that you have no shortages over other people.

Mate, just have a better esteem for yourself, and don't think of other people's lives more than you think of your own.

It's really the time for humanity to take a dump.

You know gay people have sex too, right??

*sigh*

Anyways, its natural for sure. As long as your happy and leaving within the means of the law then you're all good enjoy life, don't worry about the mainstream....or the hipsters..

Just be you!!!

There is nothing wrong with it my friend but I want you to keep in mind that those friends of yours will someday have their own families, their own obligations and that they won't always be there at anytime you feel like hanging out. Life after college isn't the same as before it. Everyone seeks and pursues their means of happiness and their means to achieve higher standards in the society to keep up with the financial needs and the basic human needs to live. The world we live in requires all of that. As you can see people will sometimes have to go their own separate ways, their own ways to live. People may stay connected and best friends but they will be obligated to things that they will consider important as well.

I am saying all of this so I want you to think clearly of life.
It's okay to be alone. But trust me, someday you will feel that you want someone to complete you. Someone to talk to, to say your problems to. Someone waiting for you at the end of the day to put a smile on your face.

For now, it's okay to be alone, you're still young. You have a full life ahead of you, so just enjoy every single part of it and explore life to the fullest.

P.s: Regarding that phobia of yours. Ask your friends to introduce you to a girl or something.

Wish you all the luck in the world and a good life. =)

Sorry for not making myself clear. The phobia I have is emetophobia, not fear of seeing people with girlfriends lol.

Also, I'm not shy around girls or anything, it's just I couldn't be bothered with them. I've decided to change my mindset since I started this thread. I went out last night and enjoyed myself, I plan I be less lazy and make an effort with my social life from now on.