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okay im going to make this as short as possible. idk how short that will be tho. so anyway ive been friends with this guy for a long long time. hes in the military and has been gone for six months. while he was gone we started talking and were flirting with the idea of dating. so anyway he comes home monday and i drive 45 min to see him and hang out with him for the night. so we go eat and go see some of his friends and things like that with him jsut comming home. so then we went to his house and surprized his parents. it was pretty nice. we cuddled on the couch and watched some tv and then he decided he wanted to go lay down. so we went to his room and cuddled in bed and i thought he was going to sleep. well we ended up kissing and one thing led to another and well im sure you know where this goes. well afterwards we cuddled ont he couch again untill it was time for me to go home. well we didnt talk much because he was tired for being up for 2 straight days and so i jsut left it alone and let him sleep while i went home and went to bed. well the next day he didnt talk to me much at all. and when he finallly did he told me hed call me later and i was okay with that so i hung up and layed down. well i ended up falling asleep and when i woke up no call, no text, no nothing. so ive been trying to get intouch with him today and still hes not responding to my text or calls. im not sure what this means or what i sould do because i dont want to push any thing on him and im trying to keep in mind hes been gone hes got things he wants to do. but does that give himt he right to leave me completley? im so confused and so stressed idk what to do. plz help!
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Well, I'm afraid we don't know enough to make any assumptions or draw any conclusions to why he's become so distant all of a sudden. Maybe he still is tired, military service can really tire one up, not to mention, you're probably not the only person who required his attention since he came back. It's only been a short while, so don't stress out too much and give it time.
If it starts taking too long, just talk to him directly about it. Tell him he's been distant and ask him why, but don't make a drama out of it. Just ask normally and calmly, and see where that leads.
Other than that, your only option here is to wait and be patient.
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The best in them is clouded by sorrows and fears, take those away and you'll bring out the brightest of lights in them.
Because no one can be happy without being kind, without giving ourselves to another, and we all love to give ourselves, it is our true nature.
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Well yeah, there's certainly the possibility that he's a tad busy. I think you just need to be patient and wait for him to get in touch.
I'd also like to say that I don't think it's a good idea to give yourself to men that you're not dating. He might not be looking to keep in touch that way.
so i finally got ahold of him and asked him if he wanted to hang out and he said no because hes hanign out with his friends again. which is the same friends hes been with the last three days. i work two full time jobs and this is my only day off and he dont want to see me...
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Well, right now wait for him to get home before getting ahold of him again, since you might become irritating if you insist while he is with his friends.
When he's less busy, ask him what's up. But, don't fret over it too much. You don't want to stress yourself out over one person.
"If I do good, people might accuse me of selfish, ulterior motives, but I will still do it. Because I believe no one is malicious, not in their core, in their raw being.
The best in them is clouded by sorrows and fears, take those away and you'll bring out the brightest of lights in them.
Because no one can be happy without being kind, without giving ourselves to another, and we all love to give ourselves, it is our true nature.
That is why, even if I might get disappointed, I'll always give the best I've got. A single candle can light a thousand others and still burn." - Skezra
Being in the military is an extremely stressful and difficult thing to do, for anyone. Even if it's just training it's completely different from the real world. And, If his was more serious and already passed his training and he was doing like, legit scary ass stuff. It's very hard to deal with. You have to be understanding, the night he came home he's suddenly got a gf, who he slept with, she constantly wants to be around him, etc etc etc. which, is understandable yes but he's been away for six months. Around dudes. and told what to do when to do it and how to do it. He's not used to having a gf again irl. You have to give him some space to get adjusted and just take a break, ya know? he just wants to chill and not worry about crap. He should come around in time, give him a week or so then try and talk to him and tell him how it hurts you etc.
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Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
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Okay so then at the same time he could want to not see you loads then leave, people think and act differently about things. For you, seeing him more this week would make him leaving easier, and for him, it could make things harder. So just give him 2 days or 3 since he came back then calmly talk to him about it and tell him it worries you etc.
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
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dont know what to do :(
