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I have observed that most people do have a threshold when choice is available.
I am a rather "traditional" person. I think males should initiate the relationship, and I think if any purchasing is to be done while courting, that the male is the one who is to pay. Not because I think women should be pampered, I'm totally against that too. I do think, that the male is to be a gentlemen toward his women when he is serious. That's not to say a male can't joke around when it is appropriate to do so though.
EDIT:Thought I would add, that if a gal would like to court, she can initiate as well. I just think males should be the ones who initiate, given that they are the suitors. Ultimately, I leave it up to God though.
I just don't really care for someone spending money on me. I think that a woman should be very well cared for, or "pampered" mentally, though.
If a girl isn't attracted to you because you don't have a six pack then she isn't the girl for you mate. You should keep your body the way you want it, don't try to fit in with what girls want. One day you'll meet a girl who wants you for you and who won't expect you to change. Forget the six pack, unless you want it for your own personal reasons. Don't do it to attract women because the only women you'll attract with a six pack that you couldn't before will probably be pretty shallow and only care about the fact you have one. Do what you want and the girl who sticks with you no matter what your physical fitness is like is the one worth waiting for.
Suddenly my eyes are open
Everything comes into focus, oh!
We are all illuminated,
Lights are shining on our faces
We are, we are blinded ! We are, we are blinded !
I said intelligence because I was in a hurry and it was the first thing that actually popped into my head, and also because almost every comment I read here was making most women sound very vain. :p Although, sure, there are quite a few vain women in our planet, I'm not saying there aren't - but let us remember not all are like this; let's stop being pessimistic, shall we?
Every woman has different values, depending on the environment in which they grew up. Not to mention that they all have different tastes, just like it happens in men.
Thus, there is no accurate answer to the question in the title. Just a multitude of them.
I personally, am very attracted to intelligence in men, like I said earlier. You could definitely say that most of the guys are 'fairly intelligent', yes indeed, but what I mean by this is a man that can actually put his pride aside, think with all seriousness, be openminded and not blinded by dogmas, be interested in sharing opinions/beliefs/ideas. Not to mention, men that are eager to know more of the world, just like me, is extremely attractive. Wit is also important and is sexy like hell. Just like good jokes. Who doesn't love good jokes. I know I do. For me, someone that has a good sense of humor is already proving part of his intelligence.
Of course, I wouldn't say psyche is all that attracts me in a guy. Obviously, physical attributes do matter too, just as much as psychological does (I'm talking about me here still, heh). For me, there is no special formula for a guy to look attractive, it's not a mathematical thing. I have no special preference for blond boys or muscled ones, or blue eyed ones, or whatever really, but I know many women that could describe you their perfect looking men; still, I assure you: all would be different. (thank god, too!)
So, yeah, your question has just as much answers as this planet has of women.
Like Lauren said, it's first important that you look how you feel most comfortable with. Eventually someone will appear and find their own notion of perfection in you - hopefully you'll think that too of that person, and be happy with her! Don't fret about it. Just remember to stay true to yourself and have confidence.
Suddenly my eyes are open
Everything comes into focus, oh!
We are all illuminated,
Lights are shining on our faces
We are, we are blinded ! We are, we are blinded !
It seems as if there's some mysogyny floating around...
I'm female and I hate money. I would never want to be rich or to have the money to waste on things I don't need. I'm more practical; I need clothes for winter, a cellphone for calls and texts (I don't need a fancy 4G smartphone to get by), food and a decent shelter. I have a car, but I'm not taking it to college with me. Why? Because I can walk everywhere I want to go, and if I need to I can take the shuttle elsewhere. I don't need a car because it just adds on to expenses I really don't want to have to deal with. Money usually brings suffering, violence and deceit. Just look at any government, modern or archaic, and tell me otherwise.
Now, what do I find attractive in guys? PERSONALITY. He has to be kind, respectful, funny, and somewhat intelligent. I'm not going to lie; if he's anywhere near 300lbs like my ex was (and it's not muscle; it's pure fat), I'd be inclined to say no to him simply because he doesn't seem to take care of himself that well. Other than that, I have no restrictions. I'm flexible.
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