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Ok so going along with my trend of topics, this is going to be a long post. Lol
My question to you guys in a nutshell is “does a guy need to have a six pack to be attractive?” I have never had any experience with girls relationship wise. I talk to girls and I am friendly and joke around with them, but I have never been in a relationship. With that said I never found out what girls consider to be an attractive man (excluding the stereotypical “hot” guys you see on TV). NOTE: for this question I am excluding attractiveness based off personality, this is just only on looks. Don’t get me wrong I am not shallow, nor do I disregard personality, but I at least want a girl to find me attractive in a relationship. Personality is extremely important in a relationship, but not so much for my question. I just don’t know if a girl could find me “hot”. I don’t have a six pack, but I have been told I am toned and lean (my mom told me this and she is a personal trainer, so I guess that counts for something. Lol). I have what I can be considered a two pack and when I tighten my abs their hard (which kinda bothers me because I think you can’t tell that they are hard based off looks. I feel like girls would think I am lying just because they can’t see that they are hard because I don’t have a six pack). I just don’t feel that I am that attractive. I know everyone has their types, but I don’t know where I fit. Like, if I was compared to a guy who was ripped, would I be considered less attractive or attractive, but just a different body type? I don’t have much confidence and for most of my life the schools I have been in are small schools. I have never been told that I am attractive (by girls my age), but at the same time I have never met any girls outside my school.
Another reason I ask this question, is because the type of girls I personally like are girls that are voluptuous and curvy. Before I go any further I just wanted to make clear that this is my own personal preference. There are plenty of girls without this body type who are beautiful and if you don’t have that body type I am not saying you are ugly. This is the type of girl that I would like to be in a relationship with (also I am not throwing away personality). Ok now with that said, I feel like if I every dated a girl of this type I would be a down-grade for her in the looks department. Look, I am only 16 and I have not seen the word, but I don’t know if this body type is common. Based off of what I have seen it seems like it is not (is it common?) and it also seems like girls like that go for ripped guys. So what I am trying to say is that “the type of girl that I like, would not like me”. I would like to think that girls could find me attractive and I could give a ripped guy a run for his money in the looks department, but I just don’t know. So again, my question to you guys is “can a guy like me be considered hot even though he doesn’t have a 6 pack and is not big and ripped, excluding personality?” Thanks again for reading another one of my long posts (I even had to cut some stuff out, lol). Also thanks for putting up with my spelling, grammar, and warped way of thinking. lol

Money.

Yes, of course he can. Just like different guys have different tastes in girls, different girls have different tastes in guys.

No.
Personally I prefer chubby guys for my own aesthetics.
Okay, here's the thing about looks. You gotta have confidence in yourself. Looks alone do not matter, you gotta have the attitude as well. You can be attractive just by looks, but unless you carry yourself the right way you won't have very many people attracted to you.
You can't just exclude personality, like I said, you gotta have confidence.

However, yes it is possible for someone like you to be attractive to a type of girl you like. Personally I wouldn't go for you, but you sure as heel sound better than a guy with a six pack, talk about bleh! Still, i prefer chubby. Should be noted I am in fact voluptuous.

But yes, of course you can be considered hot. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Duh.
But I've seen pieces of garbage get who look like a bulldozer raped their face get loads of girls. And he had a shit personality too. But wanna know why? Bastard had some confidence (granted, it was closer to arrogance, but confidence nonetheless). And he was an asshole - and we all know women love assholes.
...wait a minute.

It all comes down to person preference and opinion. There is no universal rule as to what girls find attractive. Same goes for guys.

Not all gals are gold diggers

Few aren't. Of the ones that aren't, my experience has been that most of them are in churches and take Christ seriously.

Generally it seems to me; that most women prefer 1) Money and 2) Sexual appeal.

Which I guess in one subjective sense that's good, because that's the type of woman I want to avoid. On the other hand, it's a complete misplacement of priority.

I personally don't give a dang about whether a boyfriend has money, or not. I don't like the idea of a boyfriend buying anything for me.

I have observed that most people do have a threshold when choice is available.


I am a rather "traditional" person. I think males should initiate the relationship, and I think if any purchasing is to be done while courting, that the male is the one who is to pay. Not because I think women should be pampered, I'm totally against that too. I do think, that the male is to be a gentlemen toward his women when he is serious. That's not to say a male can't joke around when it is appropriate to do so though.


EDIT:Thought I would add, that if a gal would like to court, she can initiate as well. I just think males should be the ones who initiate, given that they are the suitors. Ultimately, I leave it up to God though.

Just because a women doesnt go to church doesn't mean that she is a gold digger. I'm not if a guy has money great for him and if he doesn't have alot still doesn't affect how I feel about him and that goes for a lot of women actually. And sex appeal if he has is that great but if not well then I guess our realshoinship won't be based on sex big whoop still will be attracted to him is I like his character

I didn't say that. There are many who are in a church building that are gold diggers as well.

Wait and see.