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So I took some of your advice and just ended it with my so called "bf". Although i don't know if i went about it right. I called him and ended it over the phone. I just don't think i could have had enough strength to say it was over in person. I know i'm going to have to enforce it in person the next time we run into each other. I feel like a big weight has been lifted off of my chest though.

I did lose someone in the process though, i lost one of my friends. She admitted to me that she was hitting on him while we were "talking" and she did tell me now that we were officially done she was going to make her move... personally i'm not mad, which is strange.
I just feel sorry for her. she's 13 and already sexually active,and she has a conniving and manipulative mind.

funny to think this all happened in a matter of minutes...through a phone...


why is it that we have people that are so deceiving, yet we don't realize it until it's too late?

What exactly do you need advice for? Everything seems to be under control, although I disagree with breaking up over the phone.

why is it that we have people that are so deceiving, yet we don't realize it until it's too late? what signs are we over looking?

Nothing, its just once we're out of a situation we take a step back and observe. Its the outside observation that you can't do when you are part of the experience.

I think you did the right thing, phone break ups aren't the best but if it kept you from crumbling irl and backing out of it, then good I guess. Also it sucks about your "friend" but it sounds like she wasn't the best of a friend. She's gonna have a really screwed up life if she keeps going the way she is. But just try and remember this experience and learn from it. Your future should be better if you keep to it and keep on being smart.

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3

ending it over the phone seemed like the only reasonable way to officially end things. Every time i tried in the past to do it in person he made me second guess myself. Over the phone i could be sure of my decision.

thank you so much! it was hard but i did it and i feel proud ( not so much about how i had to do it) but sometimes you have to do what you have to do.

And i just need to learn how to read certain people a lot better, i realize mostly now that people aren't always what they portray themselves to be.

Yeah, I understand. Use this relationship as a learning experience, especially since you're young.

that's true, it would be so much easier if we could always see through deceit.

Its deceit because we don't see it.