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Hello
So my girlfriend and I have been going out for a year now. Last night we has a discussion about abstinence. I believe in it, she doesn't. That led into the whole true love discussion and what I wish to find the answer to

she says she wants to be with me for the rest of her life, but i don't exactly feel the same way. I wasn't expecting our relationship to last for 2+ years. I don't want to be tied down to her for the rest of my life. We are 15 years old and i know for sure that i don't want to get married, but she believes otherwise

how do i tell her how i feel? how do i tell her how i don't want her to be my last girlfriend for the rest of my life?

thanks

You clearly don't love her enough to stay with her now if you want to break up with her later.
Break up with her before she gets even more attached to the idea and you hurt her.

Wait, you believe in abstinence but never want to get married? or just not married to her?

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You guys are 15, holy shit. Don't think about marriage yet. Just enjoy yourselves...

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I totally agree Lauren.

Please do not string this girl along anymore, she deserves at the very least to be told RIGHT NOW, exactly how you feel and your obvious clearly planned out future, which does NOT include her.

I understand what you're saying. There's nothing wrong with how you feel, and I kinda disagree with people saying you should break up with her because you don't "love her". You're 15, and you're not dating to find the love of your life, your dating to discover who you are, what you like in people, and enjoy yourselves together. I knew I wouldn't marry my first boyfriend. I was too young. We liked each other, enjoyed each other, and that's what it's about early on.

This might be a relationship ender for you. If she doesn't feel the same way, she'll probably end it with you. Girls are more emotional that way, and try and fall in love too fast, which is what she seems to be doing. (I'm talking about most, not all so if any girls are offended I'm sorry, this is just what I notice) So try and explain it the best you can, that you're not ready to think about marriage right now. That might be all you have to say. You're not ready to think about marriage, and because of that you don't want to jump to quickly at one person.

You're smart for someone your age. Most people would be love drunk and go on saying "We've been together a year, we're going to get married!" Doesn't always happen, and at 15 that and real love in general rarely does. At 15 your personality and mind is still changing and what you might like in someone now you might hate later on down the road when you're 25. So good for you for seeing that. I hope this helps a little and that your whole situation works out.

Wow idk what to say. Is dating a girl who believes in fairy tale love stories really stringing a girl along? Because if it is then 90% of guys do that. I mean most girls (especially 15 and under) think they are gonna marry the guy they are with. So i dont think you should break up simpky bc she is a naiive optimist and you are a pessimist. I believe everybody has a conscious so if you truly feel what you are doing is stringing her along or dating her just to have somebody to use and go to parties with then break up. Otherwise just do what 90% of teenagers do and date just to have fun and not be bored.

Be realistic. If you describe your relationship as being tied down then this probably isn't the girl for you. Don't lie to her and don't lie yourself by telling her that you'll be with her forever. Don't tell her that you can't see a lasting relationship either because she's bound to take tht the wrong way. I think a bit of vague wording is needed.

" Ill be with you for as long as we have a meaningful relationship"

Dude.....leave her now, hurt her less than you will if you let her get closer..

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Can somebody help me?
I have one problem...I'm not sure...

If girl is older 1-2 years from boy ... how is it look as teens? And how is it look when I'll have 40 and she 41 or 42? Men should look older then women, so I'm confused...