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Alright so my boyfriend used to go to school another city over and his cousin who lives with him still goes there so he knows alot of his cousin's 8th grader friends. There's this one girl that started talking to him on facebook or something and he added her on bbm and now they talk quite a bit. The problem is that recently, me and him haven't been talking as much as we used to. We have alot of awkward silences and that's mostly blamed on me. I was at his house and he left and I SWEAR I accidently saw a convo with her on his phone (i'm not lying at all it was a complete accident). What I saw was the most painful thing ive ever seen in my life. He talks to her the same way he talks to me. Obviously theres nothing sexual or no "i love you"'s but they look like they have such a great time talking and its not even her saying things, it's like he enjoys her so much more. I wasn't okay with it so I told him and he said he has nothing to hide in that conversation so its okay that I looked at it. Clearly he thought that it was okay. He also said that earlier in our relationship, we already established how I want him to talk to girls but I wanted him to be more monotone and not lead them on or make them like him, and that's not how he was talking to her. I know that some people will suggest I get back at him but that would be the most horrible thing in the world because I have borderline personality disorder and dependent personality disorder so I don't mind being controlled, it helps me quite a bit and he would die of sadness if he found me talking to a guy and he has a bit of anger problems. I'm feeling that I should just keep my sadness and jealousy of her being so much better than I am to myself....I'm 14 turning 15 by the way and so is he. I feel like im in a competition with her- not to be his girlfriend because we've been dating for a year and I know him very well but I want to be the best part of his life.

First off, hello. Second off, chilax. I mean, the man should be able to have friends who are girls who he can talk to. If its your fault there are awkward silences, be more proactice in conversation. Honestly, unless he is sexting them or flirting with them, I strongly think censorship in a relationship is wrong.

If you have these disorders, which are completely alright, you have to understand that sometimes its hard for him. My last girlfriend had pretty much undiagnosed depression, and it was rough for me. So, I talked to my other friends sometimes. This didn't make her happy, and I personally believe one of the reasons that she ended it. You can't allow that to consume you. You have to be slightly understanding.

"A toothache, or a violent passion, is not necessarily diminished by our knowledge of its causes, its character, its importance or insignificance".- T.S. Eliot

That font colour is horrible, I really can't read it, even with highlighting it's hard...

it was an accident x_x im trying to change it

To everyone viewing this, I know that i've already been given advice but there's nothing stopping you from adding in your opinon or just agreeing with him ;o

I shall reply later tonight after I make dinner and eat. If I feel up to it. It's been a crappy depressy day so Ive been slackin' off on my advice.

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3