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I have wanted to reconnect with this guy for so long, but I didn't ever make an effort to get in contact with him. I just thought things were suppose to be the way they were. Anyway he called me last week randomly we only talked for a little while. After all this time there are still feelings there, he asked about my love life and said we should meet up soon. I kept saying "we shall see" because the last time we spoke about meeting up it didn't happen- so I didn't want to get my hopes up this time. so the next day he changed his status to say he had to do some Christmas shopping, I asked what he was going to buy and he asked if I was coming.

We ended up shopping for a few hours. He picked me up and dropped me to work later on in the day. It wasn't at all awkward in terms of the conversation it was just like the old days, I wasn't extremely shy like I was before. I didn't lack eye contact, I had a really nice time. It seemed like he had a good time as well. But as usual I couldn't really tell.

Every since then we haven't really spoken. I said I had a favour to ask him the other day and before I could ask he immediately said "just so you know I would help you out anytime". I have occasionally sent him a message to see how he is etc, but I sometimes get this vibe that he doesn't want to talk to me. When I know somethings up he will say its nothing. He has already warned me that he gets a little down sometimes and this is one of his ''faults'' and he needs to be with someone that can handle it. But its hard when I can't figure him out. When he starts a conversation its all good, I'm an easy going person and all but at times when I start the conversation he seems to be in one of his moods and I don't know how to get him out of it.

I get a little nervous when it comes to calling him as well cos I don't want him to be in one of those moods, cos it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong. I wanna be able to get him in a good mood. Reading this you would probably think why do I bother? well he is a good guy I just wish he didn't shut me out. its not all bad we have a laugh, we can talk about anything under the sun, he makes me smile, understands me like no other guy etc. I have not been able to get him off my mind for months and finally hes back in my life..
but I feel like things will be back to how they were. What can I do?? I'm not sure if I should even bother calling him.. or just take a back seat(although the last time I did this he slipped away)...

You're shutting him out more then he's shutting you out, honestly.. I know it's hard but just push yourself to talk to him and try not to let yourself doubt yourself so much. You'll realize by his replies and etc that if he's not in the mood for talking, then if it seems like he isn't just gently ask him if he wants to talk about it. Over time he'll see your not leaning his side and he'll trust you more and open up little by little. Sometimes you can be like, "Hey if we're gonna be close friends you have to let me help you and open up some.. you can't always just push me away" and just be open with him, tell him how you feel like he doesn't want to be friends and see what he says. Just be honest and open, it's the best way. Either he'll half way kinda be like mehh or he's going to reassure you. If he asked you to hang out I'm pretty sure he will reassure you.

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3