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Im 18 in January, she turned 16 this month. We first met 4 or 5 years ago camping, and wealways got along and hungout, I always sort of had a thing for her but I was to young and dumb/nervous to say anything. to we started talking for the first time in two years in October and dating At the beginning of November. We basically fell for each other, there were some things she hasn't told anybody about her past she was afraid to tell me because she thought id leave, I told her no matter what Id still love her. eventaully she told me, and I stayed right there it didnt change a thing. She told me shes never felt like this before and she loved me with everything she had. after three dates its like she just shut herself off. I found out her ex left her when she really needed him about 7 months ago, she told me when I held her she felt uncomfortable and it was like she was choking inside and she couldn't get trapped in a relationship again. She said she still loved me, but didnt tell me for a while. then one of her friends got killed in an accident and I was ther for her the best I could be, I asked repeatedly how she was doing and told her if she needed anything Id be right there. for a couple of days after she started telling me she loved me again, then as soon as it started it stopped. I asked her what was up and she said she still isn't over her past relationship and just needs time. she knows I love her she just isn't there yet. I understand this, but I have this bad feeling that she will fall for someone else, and I will lose her and be right back where I started. We've never really stopped talking and were really good friends, she still trusts me and wants to see me, at least,it seems she does. I guess my question is, is it over between her and I or is it possible the love I gave her before will be enough to continue a relationship when she's ready? I need some advice. I really love this girl, and Id do anything for her. Id give her my last breath without a thought. I don't let her see I'm worried, at least, I try not to. Thanks for reading and any help you can give. :\

It probably wouldn't hurt to lightly discus this with her.
It doesn't sound like she would quickly fall for someone else, it sounds like she really likes you, but is scared of a serious relationship. Just go slow with her. Continue being there for her and hanging out and talking to her as much as she wants, but be very patient about the relationship stuff.

Have a few details to add,how do i edit my posts?

After fifteen mins you can't, if it's been less there should be a blue edit button just under your txt in your post, if not just type it in a new reply.

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3

okay thanks. Not all that important though so never mind lol. But thanks again

Lol you can just reply again with them! no biggy

Little white flowers will never awaken you, not when the cold depths have all but overtaken you.

Dearest, The days are all so long,
and in the shadows I spend them all.
My heart and I long for slumber.
Slumber I'm caressing you, I bless your touch, I lust for you.
Slumber you are not a dream, Not as much as you seem.
- Joao <3

She was with her ex for 4 years. he left her when she needed him the most and started dating another girl almost right away.

Think thats it.

Just be patient and do you very best to make sure she knows you will always be there for her.

Thanks, I try my best.