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This is mainly about how confused I am, it fits into both the relationships and the family bit, but I decided to put it here considering that's my main focus.

I've never had a problem with posting my problems and asking for advice from you guys, but my (Now ex) girlfriend saw the forums on my computer and was interested about it and asking questions and didn't want to write my suspicions whilst it mattered.

As you know, her knee has been playing up etc.

On tuesday I was meant to meet up with her, to give her, her christmas present etc.

She complained her knee hurt and subsequently went out with her best friend.

fair enough, hurt me a bit, but I wasn't going to make an issue about it. She said she needed to get something to wear for the party we were both invited to on wednesday.

Wednesday we go to the party and she's dancing around... knee seems fine, but I didn't say anything, I just kind of ignored the fact it pissed me off.

Last night we were arranging to meet up today to finally exchange gifts, and she just randomly come out with 'Why are we doing this?'

Confusion sets in for me, and she says she just wants us to be close friends and for me to be there when she needs me.

Now, I really can't do that. Why should I be her shoulder to cry on just when it's up to her... Because she'll find someone else, and I'll get left in the dust.

What hurts even more is that, this exact situation happened to her before.

One of her ex's from a couple of years wanted what she wants from me, and she was left heartbroken when she had feelings for him and he found someone else.


This encompassed with the news on monday that my Grandad has a couple of months to live with bowel cancer has just really made me just...I dunno how to explain it, just torn me apart.

Grr.... How can I deal with this, I need to keep myself busy but I don't know how, any suggestion?...



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ouch man sorry to hear that,. I think you and her need to have a really long talk..let her know how you feel, without sounding like a total dick. Hope it works itself out! Good luck!

Well I told her how I thought I'd be there better for her as a boyfriend rather than just friends
(Maybe I'm being selfish?)

But she doesn't want to know unless we are just 'friends'

Not to sound harsh or anything, but it almost sounds like she feels that you are "just friends" and its felt that way for her for a while. Look back at your relationship, does it really seem like you would give anything any time to be with her, or just when it benifited you as well? What I mean is, was it ever really love, or just a strong friendship?

Maybe she just needs time to figure things out for her self, shes at the age where she has no idea what she wants, just give her her space. If it works out in your favor then it was meant to be,but if she finds some body new, try to be happy for her. just my $0.02s

Wow, those women. I tell ya. I bet you it could be a mood swing. That happens more often when they have a relationship with a man. It's tragic if she wants it all done, but you must forgive her when she says she wants it all back. IF she does

AMEN! Somtimes they dont know what they had untill it's not there any more. It turns their "normal" into hell, and they realize they can't live without it. Good luck kid, I hope everything works out for you and your girl