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I've been despising this semester already, and here's one of the reasons why.

There was a guy I really liked in my Spanish class, but he dropped this semester. Somehow I feel as if it's my fault. I sat with him in a table group twice, and I feel as if somehow I scared him away. Maybe he knew that I liked him, and he wanted to get out of there. I wouldn't be surprised; every time a guy has liked me, he's always run away. Am I really that bad?

I don't think the feeling that it was my fault is going to go away. It's been bothering me for ages. I know it's probably not my fault, but..who knows. It might be. What do I do? I don't want to keep thinking about it and how I absolutely fail with males. Sigh .

Oh. That sucks. I'm sure he didn't leave the class because of you. This guy in the soccer team looks at me throughout the class(when he use to sit across across from me but I think i got him mad when i asked this girl for his name to ask him a question, i saw it on his face since he decided to sit closer to me when the teacher said sit where you want) and I would not quit french just because of that. Try to get over it. I don't think it was because of you.

That doesn't sound like it's your fault at all, he may have just had a scheduling issue. I don't think it's something to beat yourself up for.

Hello @Philomena,

I think you worry about what others' opinions way too much. I know this is something really tough to ignore, I myself am sometimes really shaken when it comes to what others think about me. But someone very close to me has slowly started to convince me that, wherever you go, whatever you do, there is someone that is going to put you down just for the fun of it, as often as possible; and that the best way to live with yourself, is not really minding what they do think, because if you are genuinely proud and secure of what you do, that's the path to success. If you fall (not litterally), there's always going to be someone mischievious there to watch you and love the show. Always. Fucking always. So, why bother?

First, you need to find some confidence. Now, confidence isn't going to knock on your door. You need to build it up, slowly. I've seen other posts from you, you sound really insecure, which I don't blame: everyone has insecurities. Some, more than others, it doesn't mean they're weaker or something. But what you do need is to fight them slowly. With patience. Determination. (:
I've read somewhere that you really wanted to lose some weight in 2012. Well, target the ideal weight you want, reach out for it. If it's what you really want and need for you to start loving yourself, then do it, really. Don't give up. Don't let that guy, - that maybe left spanish classes only because, maybe, he signed up for some other activities (sports? Idk), - drown you in worry. Don't fret over it.

Because, you know what?
If you want someone to really care about you, you need to care about yourself first. If you want someone to love you, you need to love yourself first. Same for respect, etc etc.
Show the guys what they're missing out. Reinvent yourself. Go out and do exercise. Write poetry, draw, run crazily in a park, go for walks through town with your music player, make plans with friends, with family members. Look at the mirror, smile at yourself, talk to yourself, trust yourself. I know you can do it.

I wish you good luck my dear, really. My thoughts are with you, I know how hard it is. <3
If you want to speak further about it, don't hesitate to contact me.

Suddenly my eyes are open
Everything comes into focus, oh!
We are all illuminated,
Lights are shining on our faces
We are, we are blinded !
We are, we are blinded !

its probably not because of you, i highly doubt someone would actually change their schedule just because of one person. i think you're just worrying yourself too much. try to distract yourself from it, spend more time with friend or something to get your mind off of it.

Of course it's not your fault. Guys like attention like girls do, and anyway, you only sat with him twice. That can't be his reason for dropping out of a class.

I always have had a not so good trait of wayyy over thinking things. If a guy I don't like leaves a table I just sat down at, I can't help but wonder if it's my fault. If a group of people are laughing as I walk by, I can't help but think they are laughing at me. If a guy that I like suddenly stops texting, or IMing back I automatically got back over my replies wondering if I said something wrong, even though the only times that has happened are if his phone, or computer dies, or something. I over think things like that and stress about it for days sometimes. The only thing that has helped me with that is an increase of confidence. That's what you need. So he dropped out of class. So what? There are a bunch of guys out there who you will like and who will like you back.

I don't see how that could have been your fault.

I guess I'm just thinking too hard about it . The more I think about it now, the more I believe he just dropped because he didn't want to take Spanish anymore. He never participated (I think he did once, but you need 40 points of participation a quarter and I never heard him speak) and he never did homework. He probably failed and decided to drop to something less difficult.

I'm used to blaming myself for stuff, but I just normally need to take a step back and look at the situation from new eyes. Thank you both for your replies! I appreciate your support .

You're welcome. It sounds like the subject just bored him. It wasn't because of you.

A lot of people have been dropping classes in all of my courses. Half of my math class dropped . I guess people are taking it easy second semester; senioritis is taking its toll on the honors population!

Would a mod look into this member please? It's obviously Dee, she's created a multi >_>