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It's hard to explain but kinda like you're falling behind everybody else? I mean, I have never been in a relationship my entire life, I've never been on a date, I've never even kissed a girl, and it seems like everybody my age has done that stuff. I feel like by the time I'm experiencing all this stuff for the first time everybody else will have done it already and I'll be at like a disadvantage or something...

Sorry for rambling on about something that probably sounds stupid but I just need to get it off my chest and tell someone about it.

Hello Nick,
First of all, I'll answer to the question on the title. Yes, I have felt that way for a looong time, but it didn't bother me that much. Because, you know what? - It doesn't matter. People around you may even be precipitating themselves in stuff they shouldn't at their age. Do you really envy them that much?
I have never been on a date, nor in a relationship, until I was (am!) eighteen. I don't really care about my lack of experience; relationships and love are not like a Curriculum Vitae (CV). Someday, someone is going to cross your path, possibly you're going to notice it, possibly you're going to develop feelings for eachother, and the rest will come naturally. That's the most important.
Just keep on living and eventually it'll fall right in front of you when you least expect. : )

I feel the exame same way, in exact the same situation.
I never kissed, dated or done a girl. And that while everyone in my former class did all three already.
I try not to think about it. Otherwise i only feel more worthless.

Just keep on doing what you normally do. Someone will cross your path one day, and she will be what you always wanted.
There is no hurry in dating. The longer it takes, the more special it gets.

I haven't but you time will come man. Don't worry about it. I've been in a relationship but I rather stay lonely right know just with my friend and not dedicate my life to one person till I'm older.

Don't worry about it too much. Just be patient and move at your own pace. You aren't falling behind anyone. You won't be at much of a disadvantage at all. It'll come when you least expect it. And then it won't matter at all that you haven't done it until then.

i feel you

You don't have to experience things the same time as others do.
Other may experience relationships at this age and they won't last and you might, on the other hand, experience them after 5 years and yet yours would last.

It's like saying some people marry at my age but I haven't done that.
That doesn't mean that their marriage will last or that since this did that I have to do it as well.

Do what feels "right". Because only what's "right" is the only experience that you will be benefited from.

Actually, there needs to be more guys like you.

I think you guys misunderstood me. I don't mean that I feel pressured to be in a relationship just because everyone else is, I want to be in a relationship but I just have never been in one. And since almost everyone else my age has been in one, I don't know I just kinda feel like a loser. It's hard to explain but I just need to get it off my chest.

Well if you want to be in one... Then get into one? Something holding you back?

(To Renji Abarai) "Puh-Lease! I'm just a lowly-but-handsome candy merchant. How could I possibly perform Bankai?"